|Posted on July 30, 2017 at 4:15 PM|
One of my followers sent me a message this morning. She is looking to feel happy again after giving her ex a second chance to only find he disappointed her…again. In her words, “I don’t know why I wasn’t enough for him. I feel used.” Truth be told, it wasn’t her that wasn’t good enough.
It was always him. I told her that someone’s inability to stay exclusive with someone has no fault on you as a person, rather a weakness they carry. When a relationship ends, we quickly assume it has to do with us. Maybe it is because the person said we weren’t enough or maybe they cheated…leaving us feeling “not enough.” When you find yourself doubting your worth, remember a few things.
1️⃣ This had to occur for you to get where you’re going. You may not see it now, but have faith that something greater is ahead for you. The difficult part is not knowing when it’ll come, but believe it will and you’ll have something to keep working towards.
2️⃣ You don’t have to be who you were before you knew them. After a breakup, we tend to feel lost because we want to go back in time to who we were before we had them in our lives. I hate to break it to you, but you’ll never be that person again. You’ll have pieces of that person, but you’re different.
You have new experiences, memories and stories that have shaped you. Stop fighting yourself and learn to embrace the broken road that will lead you to where you are destined to be. Lastly, remember the inner warrior within you. She wouldn’t take this shit and you shouldn’t either. Don’t let someone take advantage of your heart. ✋️