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Can't Half-Ass Love

Posted on February 11, 2019 at 11:25 AM Comments comments (0)

I read somewhere yesterday, “Does true love still exist?” Love is something that will always be self-defined and we all see it differently. No two people will view, understand, see, hear, or feel love the same. As beautiful as that it, I think it is also what causes many problems. Realizing that not everyone will accept your kind of love or that they’ll show appreciation of it how you’d like is an important piece of the puzzle. We’re not made to love the same and if we realize this, we will be better off. But, to me, love is the idea of accepting, wanting, caring, and desiring someone without condition. This is knowing that at any point in time, things may change but rather than fear this- you put your heart on the line and give it your all. You can’t half-ass love and that’s the only truth I’ve come to know.

Keep it Up.

Posted on February 8, 2019 at 11:25 AM Comments comments (0)



I’m not the type of person that really cringes when she sees old pictures of herself in the past. It actually makes me happy to realize in just a few short years, how much we, things, life can change. I went to bed last night listening to a meditation that reminded me that nothing in life is permanent and things can change in a blink of an eye. This is so important to remember when going through a tough time. Remembering that this too, shall past. A couple days ago, my boyfriend and I were going through my old photos I’ve taken in the month of February- laughing, especially pictures of me as a blonde. This picture popped up and I shared with him a little about what the picture was and together we laughed and continued looking at others. This photo was taken on February 8, 2015- just 4 years ago from today. On paper, it sounds not too long ago but in perspective and realization of who I was then, it’s a lifetime for me. You see, this photo is of me and a guy my friends basically set me up with. On paper, he had all the things I’d consider “good.” He had a career as a chiropractor, he made me feel beautiful, and desired. He even delivered Valentine’s Day strawberries to my office. Despite all these things that would make a girl feel ecstatic to pursue this possibility, it didn’t for me. Because these things aren’t enough to make relationships last and I learned that not long before this. I wasn’t ready to date, but I also knew that all this would do for me was kill time and take away from what I really needed to focus on and that was me, myself and I. This didn’t last long. Maybe 2 months max and got as far as a kiss on the cheek. I don’t like to drag things on when I know in my heart it’s not for me. Exactly 14 days after, on the next photo, is me- alone, happy and helping kids run at the beach. The reality of growth is that you’re never done. It’s indefinite and you keep learning and becoming different versions of you and my hope is that whether you’re on this chapter now, you remember that all good things come with time. Don’t be afraid to give up the mundane for something greater- and that may just simply be you, smiling, alone.


Many moons ago

Posted on January 17, 2019 at 2:20 AM Comments comments (0)

Many moons ago, it was difficult for me to travel. My body would respond with anxiety, stress, and fear. This resulted in never feeling good about going or being there. What should have always felt like a “vacation,” simply was work. It wasn’t until I realized it was never the trips that caused this feeling, rather the people I was going on them with to cause me to feel this way. I never felt for the lack of a better word, safe. It’s easy to have ptsd after bad experiences, like the fear of dating or even falling in love again after having your heart broken. You build walls so high to protect yourself that you don’t know how they’ll ever be broken down. It’s not overnight, but in the midst of all the bricks you build you’ll realize that you’ve got nothing to lose and that simple realization is what frees you from the fear. The beauty of life is that sometimes it brings you full CIRCLE to a place you have been before just to show you how much you have grown. No matter how many "how we met" stories I hear, or how many love stories get written, ours will always be one of my favorites... simply for the reason that my heart was hidden behind a wall only a real man could climb. Find someone who looks at you like you are magic & knows you’re worth the wait.

Right One.

Posted on December 11, 2018 at 4:15 PM Comments comments (0)



What many people don’t know is that this guy and I didn’t just happen. I always thought relationships that were “natural” meant that you meet someone you like and then boom, you hit it off and that’s that. I fooled myself into thinking it was supposed to just be easy. If there’s anything that my relationship with this guy has taught me is that it’s so much more than an attraction that makes things last. It is commitment, patience, friendship, laughter, forgiveness, appreciation, and even tough love. Then there’s things bigger than you, like destiny, faith, and timing. For me, it was allowing the space between time and both of our equal presence to create something greater than just him or I alone. Love doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice who you are, your goals, or dreams for the sake of another. But, you both have to want it and that means the good, the bad, and the ugly. Love isn’t about falling head over heels for someone. No, it’s about finding someone you can walk in love with. Someone you can count on when it doesn’t add up. Don’t give up on finding something great and settle because you’re afraid of being alone. Those weeks, months, and even years on single-hood are sometimes your golden years. They just make the time worth the wait when the right one comes along.

I got this.

Posted on November 14, 2018 at 2:15 AM Comments comments (0)

May all your vibes say: I got this.


Remember, self- care is how you take your power back from things trying to weigh you down- like negative thoughts, our fears, and anxiety.


I believe that self-love comes in many forms. Learning to love yourself has to be one of the most challenging, dynamic and eye opening experiences in my opinion.


We're not taught how to love ourselves and often grow our perceptions of ourselves by the opinions of others. Today, I have a greater appreciation of loving myself. I've learned the importance of knowing myself and not allowing the opinion of others to take away how I see myself. But that comes with me doing the work to make myself proud of the person I am- inside and out. When you not only love the person in the mirror but the person you were and the person you’re becoming.... you’re unstoppable.


“One day you will take your final breaths, and none of the external opinions or internal fears will matter. What will matter is how you loved, learned, laughed and lived.”

Golden Year

Posted on September 30, 2018 at 9:15 PM Comments comments (0)


13 years ago, before beginning my senior year of high school, I developed an under-active thyroid condition. This brought on its own challenges I had to deal with for years...it never goes away. 5 years ago, after ending a toxic relationship, I began therapy. I went every week for over just a year. You probably remember my deep journal entries on my website under “therapy-inspired.” I’ve always needed justification for why things happened or need to happen, and why we do the things we do. Over the years, I was fortunate to have a diverse group of friendships/relationships that began and also ended in my life. Some lasted only for a season, others for a few years. I’m grateful for each person and the chapter they brought me, because it molded me into the person I am today. One of the greatest lessons I have been fortunate to learn overtime is that happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a job, or college degree. It starts with your thoughts and what you tell yourself everyday. How you talk to yourself is KEY to not only your fundamental development in life, but how others perceive you. There are going to be enough people who don’t believe you’ll reach your goals, enough people who want you to do the things they do, and enough people who are just as lost in life that think they know what’s best for you (family included). We’re all in the same boat... trying to find our way. Don’t be afraid of the confusion, it’s normal. Don’t be afraid of being lost, you’ll eventually find your path. In the meantime, be confident in who you are and know you are DIVINE, my dear. In all your glory....you are ENOUGH. Don’t change to accommodate those who are uncomfortable in your choices, because I promise you...the right people for you will love you for YOU and that is always enough. Here’s to another year. 29 on the 29th.

Low tide

Posted on September 26, 2018 at 6:20 PM Comments comments (0)



I remember reading years back, “The truth will hurt, but let it. The truth requires change, and change can be painful. That’s why they call it growing pains.” This year has been such an eye opening experience for me. Just yesterday, I met with another person who’s “lost.” We’ve become so accustomed to living our lives focused on our dreams, goals, and ambitions that we’ve forgotten to stop and ask how others around us are doing. I’m sad to say many aren’t ok. There are many, too many, struggling to remember they ARE enough. Too many struggling to find their purpose in this great, big world. Why? Well, because maybe they’ve been sitting in the shadows of their past or maybe because they’ve forgotten to look past the horizon. There’s so much more in life than what meets the eye, yet we get so caught up in our everyday “battles,” that we forget how good we have it. Sure, we will always want more of this, more of that, but I firmly believe the people who achieve greatness are the ones who stop and appreciate the wonders of what has been given to them and that’s not always the fruits of your own labor. Sometimes it’s the big “little” things like the ocean air, sand, and sun on your shoulders. Stop and appreciate it every now and then because what I can promise you is that even if the tide is high right now and you’re drowning, even in the shallow ends, you’re going to come out. No matter how much the unfamiliar, uncomfortableness, and rockiness of this thing we call life can hurt, be confusing and scary... don’t resist what needs to occur to take you where you’ve always needed to be. Destiny is never late and that’s the beauty of the journey. No matter how much we want to believe we’re controlling our destination, it’s been predetermined. We just need to keep showing up and appreciate where we are in the moments that will one day be just a stepping stone to get us where we are supposed to be. Keep riding the waves, my dear. No matter how rough they can get, please promise me you won’t spend so much time treading water and trying to keep your head above that you forget how much you’ve always loved to swim.

GOLD.

Posted on September 24, 2018 at 8:20 PM Comments comments (0)



Growing up, we’re taught to work hard for the “good life.” That typically is masked as materialistic items such as nice cars, clothes, and luxurious items. As we grow older and wiser, we learn a simple truth: Not all that shines is gold, and that’s okay. With the years, I’ve become more confident, happy, and secure in knowing my idea of what’s “gold” doesn’t have to be same as you and yours. We live in a world where comparing is easy to do, judging is the new norm, and good is never good enough because he/she has this. I’ve always believed that this is due to our devices being in the palm of our hands- thanks to social media, it’s so easy to compare. This year alone, I’ve met with close to 10 people who are struggling to find their own path. Society has told them that they are “behind.” This isn’t true. Your journey is yours...own it. One thing I want you to always remember is that not all things are as good as they look. Beauty on the outside does not always equal good quality. Everything that is shiny or fancy does not mean it is valuable. The reality is nothing shines brighter than a heart of gold and my dear, that is priceless. Happy Thursday, beauties.

Full CIRCLE Moments.

Posted on August 23, 2018 at 3:55 PM Comments comments (0)


This picture popped up on my “memories” and it made me laugh. This photo is from a few years ago. I was at Cowboy Country, a local line-dancing club. I’ve never been big on going out and it’s primarily because I prefer to spend time with loved ones in places I can enjoy solely their company. It’s not always easy to do this when in loud and crowded places. Anyways...the reason why I wanted to share this photo with you is because I wanted to share the difference between me then and now. As I mention often, if you’re not changing, you’re not growing. This was me, single, after many years. I had finally reached this super awkward stage in my life where I thought I wanted to date, but I was also extremely cynical to love, guys, and dating. I stopped trying, caring, and wanting to find love. I thought once you have it and lose it, it’s never the same. The reality is, it’s not. When you’ve had your heart broken once, you don’t look at love or people the same. You have a guard up, a barrier. Like me in this picture, standing behind a wall rather than out...on the dance floor where it’s so much easier to meet a guy. That’s the thing about saying we’re ready for love. Just because you’re “out” there, it doesn’t always mean you are open and willing to give it a shot. This false belief in our minds that we are ready or when people want to convince you that you’re ready is the beginning of all things painful. You need to heal, my dear. No one knows how long that takes and sometimes you may think you’re healed and you’re not. But I promise, promise, promise...when you know you’ve healed, you’re no longer the one looking for love. Instead, it finds you and sometimes in the same place you were looking. 


Chase the light.

Posted on January 18, 2018 at 6:10 PM Comments comments (0)

As many may know, I've been writing on my personal blog, www.shimarazipour.com, since I was 16. I often receive messages and emails from people I've never met seeking guidance. 8/10 times, it is often someone who has lost hope, faith, or feels like a failure for not being where they feel they "should be."

 

My blog has always humbled me because it reminds me that we're all fighting battles no one may know of.


 

If you feel lost today, keep this quote in mind: "Don't compare your life to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it's their time."

 

YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. Keep chasing the light & never give up. xoxo.