|Posted on February 11, 2019 at 11:25 AM||comments (0)|
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I’m not the type of person that really cringes when she sees old pictures of herself in the past. It actually makes me happy to realize in just a few short years, how much we, things, life can change. I went to bed last night listening to a meditation that reminded me that nothing in life is permanent and things can change in a blink of an eye. This is so important to remember when going through a tough time. Remembering that this too, shall past. A couple days ago, my boyfriend and I were going through my old photos I’ve taken in the month of February- laughing, especially pictures of me as a blonde. This picture popped up and I shared with him a little about what the picture was and together we laughed and continued looking at others. This photo was taken on February 8, 2015- just 4 years ago from today. On paper, it sounds not too long ago but in perspective and realization of who I was then, it’s a lifetime for me. You see, this photo is of me and a guy my friends basically set me up with. On paper, he had all the things I’d consider “good.” He had a career as a chiropractor, he made me feel beautiful, and desired. He even delivered Valentine’s Day strawberries to my office. Despite all these things that would make a girl feel ecstatic to pursue this possibility, it didn’t for me. Because these things aren’t enough to make relationships last and I learned that not long before this. I wasn’t ready to date, but I also knew that all this would do for me was kill time and take away from what I really needed to focus on and that was me, myself and I. This didn’t last long. Maybe 2 months max and got as far as a kiss on the cheek. I don’t like to drag things on when I know in my heart it’s not for me. Exactly 14 days after, on the next photo, is me- alone, happy and helping kids run at the beach. The reality of growth is that you’re never done. It’s indefinite and you keep learning and becoming different versions of you and my hope is that whether you’re on this chapter now, you remember that all good things come with time. Don’t be afraid to give up the mundane for something greater- and that may just simply be you, smiling, alone.
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|Posted on December 11, 2018 at 4:15 PM||comments (0)|
What many people don’t know is that this guy and I didn’t just happen. I always thought relationships that were “natural” meant that you meet someone you like and then boom, you hit it off and that’s that. I fooled myself into thinking it was supposed to just be easy. If there’s anything that my relationship with this guy has taught me is that it’s so much more than an attraction that makes things last. It is commitment, patience, friendship, laughter, forgiveness, appreciation, and even tough love. Then there’s things bigger than you, like destiny, faith, and timing. For me, it was allowing the space between time and both of our equal presence to create something greater than just him or I alone. Love doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice who you are, your goals, or dreams for the sake of another. But, you both have to want it and that means the good, the bad, and the ugly. Love isn’t about falling head over heels for someone. No, it’s about finding someone you can walk in love with. Someone you can count on when it doesn’t add up. Don’t give up on finding something great and settle because you’re afraid of being alone. Those weeks, months, and even years on single-hood are sometimes your golden years. They just make the time worth the wait when the right one comes along.
|Posted on November 14, 2018 at 2:15 AM||comments (0)|
May all your vibes say: I got this.
Remember, self- care is how you take your power back from things trying to weigh you down- like negative thoughts, our fears, and anxiety.
I believe that self-love comes in many forms. Learning to love yourself has to be one of the most challenging, dynamic and eye opening experiences in my opinion.
We're not taught how to love ourselves and often grow our perceptions of ourselves by the opinions of others. Today, I have a greater appreciation of loving myself. I've learned the importance of knowing myself and not allowing the opinion of others to take away how I see myself. But that comes with me doing the work to make myself proud of the person I am- inside and out. When you not only love the person in the mirror but the person you were and the person you’re becoming.... you’re unstoppable.
“One day you will take your final breaths, and none of the external opinions or internal fears will matter. What will matter is how you loved, learned, laughed and lived.”
|Posted on September 30, 2018 at 9:15 PM||comments (0)|
13 years ago, before beginning my senior year of high school, I developed an under-active thyroid condition. This brought on its own challenges I had to deal with for years...it never goes away. 5 years ago, after ending a toxic relationship, I began therapy. I went every week for over just a year. You probably remember my deep journal entries on my website under “therapy-inspired.” I’ve always needed justification for why things happened or need to happen, and why we do the things we do. Over the years, I was fortunate to have a diverse group of friendships/relationships that began and also ended in my life. Some lasted only for a season, others for a few years. I’m grateful for each person and the chapter they brought me, because it molded me into the person I am today. One of the greatest lessons I have been fortunate to learn overtime is that happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a job, or college degree. It starts with your thoughts and what you tell yourself everyday. How you talk to yourself is KEY to not only your fundamental development in life, but how others perceive you. There are going to be enough people who don’t believe you’ll reach your goals, enough people who want you to do the things they do, and enough people who are just as lost in life that think they know what’s best for you (family included). We’re all in the same boat... trying to find our way. Don’t be afraid of the confusion, it’s normal. Don’t be afraid of being lost, you’ll eventually find your path. In the meantime, be confident in who you are and know you are DIVINE, my dear. In all your glory....you are ENOUGH. Don’t change to accommodate those who are uncomfortable in your choices, because I promise you...the right people for you will love you for YOU and that is always enough. Here’s to another year. 29 on the 29th.
|Posted on September 26, 2018 at 6:20 PM||comments (0)|
I remember reading years back, “The truth will hurt, but let it. The truth requires change, and change can be painful. That’s why they call it growing pains.” This year has been such an eye opening experience for me. Just yesterday, I met with another person who’s “lost.” We’ve become so accustomed to living our lives focused on our dreams, goals, and ambitions that we’ve forgotten to stop and ask how others around us are doing. I’m sad to say many aren’t ok. There are many, too many, struggling to remember they ARE enough. Too many struggling to find their purpose in this great, big world. Why? Well, because maybe they’ve been sitting in the shadows of their past or maybe because they’ve forgotten to look past the horizon. There’s so much more in life than what meets the eye, yet we get so caught up in our everyday “battles,” that we forget how good we have it. Sure, we will always want more of this, more of that, but I firmly believe the people who achieve greatness are the ones who stop and appreciate the wonders of what has been given to them and that’s not always the fruits of your own labor. Sometimes it’s the big “little” things like the ocean air, sand, and sun on your shoulders. Stop and appreciate it every now and then because what I can promise you is that even if the tide is high right now and you’re drowning, even in the shallow ends, you’re going to come out. No matter how much the unfamiliar, uncomfortableness, and rockiness of this thing we call life can hurt, be confusing and scary... don’t resist what needs to occur to take you where you’ve always needed to be. Destiny is never late and that’s the beauty of the journey. No matter how much we want to believe we’re controlling our destination, it’s been predetermined. We just need to keep showing up and appreciate where we are in the moments that will one day be just a stepping stone to get us where we are supposed to be. Keep riding the waves, my dear. No matter how rough they can get, please promise me you won’t spend so much time treading water and trying to keep your head above that you forget how much you’ve always loved to swim.
|Posted on September 24, 2018 at 8:20 PM||comments (0)|
Growing up, we’re taught to work hard for the “good life.” That typically is masked as materialistic items such as nice cars, clothes, and luxurious items. As we grow older and wiser, we learn a simple truth: Not all that shines is gold, and that’s okay. With the years, I’ve become more confident, happy, and secure in knowing my idea of what’s “gold” doesn’t have to be same as you and yours. We live in a world where comparing is easy to do, judging is the new norm, and good is never good enough because he/she has this. I’ve always believed that this is due to our devices being in the palm of our hands- thanks to social media, it’s so easy to compare. This year alone, I’ve met with close to 10 people who are struggling to find their own path. Society has told them that they are “behind.” This isn’t true. Your journey is yours...own it. One thing I want you to always remember is that not all things are as good as they look. Beauty on the outside does not always equal good quality. Everything that is shiny or fancy does not mean it is valuable. The reality is nothing shines brighter than a heart of gold and my dear, that is priceless. Happy Thursday, beauties.
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As many may know, I've been writing on my personal blog, www.shimarazipour.com, since I was 16. I often receive messages and emails from people I've never met seeking guidance. 8/10 times, it is often someone who has lost hope, faith, or feels like a failure for not being where they feel they "should be."
My blog has always humbled me because it reminds me that we're all fighting battles no one may know of.
If you feel lost today, keep this quote in mind: "Don't compare your life to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it's their time."
YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. Keep chasing the light & never give up. xoxo.