|Posted on January 8, 2018 at 5:20 PM||comments (0)|
"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes...including you."
It’s always been in my nature to work, work, work. I get it from my parents. However, I also love my downtime -it’s how and where I refuel my drive, passion, and creativity. We all need a place or thing that gives that to us and I don’t think a person should be it. Find something you love like walking, laying in the park, doing a puzzle, hiking, etc. Whatever it is, build your schedule around it. That was the best advice a doctor once gave me. We put things like taking care of ourselves after we’ve build our busy schedules like getting a massage, facial, etc. The truth is- these are the important, take care of yourself activities that will ignite your fire again. Rest, when you need to. Today, I’m taking an off day and taking my dogs hiking. It’s important for me to spend time with them and more importantly, to feel at one with nature. It’s where I feel inspired to write for you. This year, I ask you to do more kind things for yourself. Watch how much you’ll glow with a little more rest.
|Posted on January 2, 2018 at 1:25 PM||comments (0)|
One of the best lessons I’m taking away from 2017 was learned from my cousin. Though initially her parents could not accept her relationship, she stuck by him, her beliefs, and her confidence in the relationship. I’ve learned if things matter to you, it doesn’t always matter what he or she thinks. At the end of the day, we are always responsible for our actions and how we feel. Everything that occurs is typically in result of a choice we once made. Put up a fight for what you love & never settle for less than butterflies. You deserve to live the life you’ve always imagined...however that looks to you. Don’t go into a career your parents want, don’t marry just because you feel you’re getting old. Never set limitations on yourself.
|Posted on November 14, 2017 at 12:05 PM||comments (0)|
Bubba always reminds me that things don't always look like we think they will. Before getting him, I thought having a dog would be a breeze. I thought all dogs were going to be the same... feed them, walk them, let them sleep. Easy.
I quickly learned otherwise when I brought him home. He wasn't immediately affectionate. I needed to allow time to build a bond with him. He didn't immediately trust me. I needed to allow adventures together show him he could trust me to protect him.
He reminds me often that I cannot expect others to perceive life the way I do. Just because two people think, react, or feel differently about things does not mean they aren't right for one another or compatible. It simply means that it is up to us if we want to take the time to learn why they think differently.
Remember, your job is never to change people but to decide if what they offer, think, believe, want, and need is something you're ok with accepting into YOUR life. Ask yourself, is this difference between the way we think too great to keep us striving for greatness.
Pick your battles and remember there's more to life than meets the eyes. What do you feel inside?
|Posted on October 25, 2017 at 1:00 PM||comments (0)|
Four years ago, I was in a very different place than I am today. I was freshly single after a four year relationship and felt completely lost. I no longer knew who I was and also played the victim card. I was very vulnerable and whenever something occurred, I would ask, “Why me?” Not too long after, I came across a dog at a pet shop that I wanted soooo badly. She seemed like the perfect fit for me. After applying to rescue her and learning that I didn’t get her, I was crushed. Already feeling rejected, it was the last thing my heart could handle. I was learning an important lesson that I wouldn’t realize until a few months later and that is that she wasn’t my dog. Nope, a cute, silly, and troubled dog named Bubba was. I would meet him exactly a few weeks later and adopting him was so easy, it was effortless! Since that day and everyday after, my dog, also my best friend, has gifted me with life lesson after life lesson. He helped me find my passions again and gave me a healthy outlook on life. That is to trust that the right things come to you at the right time and never a day early. I have a quote written and placed in a frame right next to his photo in my room that I look at whenever I need a little reminding that things will make sense one day, even if they do not now. It’s a quote @createthelove shared before and it really resonated with me. It reads, “I hope you have the courage to live the kind of life that gets you to the place we are to meet, and don’t spend it loving someone else with half your heart, because you were afraid I wouldn’t show up.” Indiana Jones uncovered the cult of the mummy’s crypt, and so did I...four years ago! Happy 4th birthday to the best treasure I have found. I love being your Mummy. #whorescuedwho #indiannajones #halloween #lifelessonsfrommydogbubba #trust
|Posted on October 25, 2017 at 2:50 AM||comments (0)|
MY CURRENT SITUATION IS NOT MY FINAL DESTINATION.
Someone once told me, "If God keeps opening the doors for you, Shima, keep walking through them." It was so powerful and reminded me that oftentimes we forget that we've overcome everything we've been through up until this point and we will continue to. Find the inner warrior within you whenever times are tough and remember your purpose. It is what will fuel your fire. This Tuesday, keep in mind that, "If you are willing to do more than you are paid to do, eventually you will be paid to do more than you do."
|Posted on October 24, 2017 at 2:35 AM||comments (0)|
I always thought it was interesting how rarely we celebrate those who are willing to give love a chance again. Maybe it’s because often we see people jump from one relationship to another. Yet, there are so many who lock up the doors...swear they won’t go out anymore. Well, I’m here to recognize those who are willing to give love another shot. I am here to tell you that I admire your bravery. Having your heart broken, betrayed, and devalued isn’t easy to come back from. It isn’t to be open to love, to have faith, or to believe when you’ve been shown otherwise. This is why I want you to know that I see you, all the way over there, trying again. It’s beautiful. It’s empowering. It’s encouraging. The truth is, you either get bitter or you become better. Take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you better, stronger, wiser. A lot of what weighs you down isn’t yours to carry. Let go, live free, and find your faith in humanity again.
|Posted on October 24, 2017 at 2:30 AM||comments (0)|
|Posted on October 20, 2017 at 5:55 PM||comments (0)|
Don’t give up on a dream just because of the time it’ll take to get there or because another door slammed shut on your face. Be open to what you’ll discover and don’t be afraid of opening a new one, even if there’s a chance it may close on you, too. Just be wise enough to know when to go and when to stay. Some opportunities, for all intents and purposes, look like a brick wall. Impossible. But what you’ll soon discover is that when something is worth discovering, like what may be hidden on the other side, we find a way.
As they say, where there’s a will, there’s a way. Sometimes we build walls to see who is patient enough to find a way in. I just hope that you don’t give in to fear when the right one is standing there. You may fall trying to find your way in, but don’t let it stop you from reaching the top. Fall seven times, stand up eight.
|Posted on October 19, 2017 at 3:00 PM||comments (0)|
"Yeah, you're attractive,
but are you good for my mental health?"
You don’t realize how heavy toxicity is on your soul until you’re far and free from it. By free I mean that you’ve spent some time alone to find yourself again. The other day, I tried #Reiki. I went to @santamonicahealing and decided to give it a shot. I’ve only heard good things about it and being the open-minded person I am, I always believe in giving things a chance. I was instantly welcomed and felt a great sense of energy being there. I was simply reminded with a hug, session, and some time listening to what my soul needed that I’ve come a long way. Yes, a long way. I used to take so much stupid shit in relationships because I thought that’s what you’re supposed to do. You’re supposed to be there for people through the highs and lows. You’re supposed to be their shoulder when times are rough. Well, guess what? Who’s say you’re supposed to do shit? Especially when it’s not being reciprocated. That’s the thing about a push-pull relationship. Only one person is giving and the other is pushing you away. You know what that does to a person’s mental health? It fucks them up. It makes them think that something is wrong with them for wanting to help, care, and give. Not everyone is ready for the love you give, but you know who’s always waiting for a little more? You. Your mind, your body, your soul. It may fight you, but with a little loving, patience, and giving...your soul will thank you for loving it like you’ve been trying to love everyone around you. My dear, so many people try to escape seasons of loneliness and as fall and winter roll around, please don’t feel “lonely.” If you are feeling sad or alone, feel it. Be in it. Until you feel like a masterpiece alone, you’ll never connect with people for the right reasons. Be the person you’ve been to others and watch how quickly you’ll grow. You come first.
|Posted on September 2, 2017 at 11:15 PM||comments (0)|
I think one of the rockiest journeys we take in life is figuring out who we are - detached from other's opinions and perceptions of us.
In all honesty, I used to care a lot how I was perceived and it really effected me more when I was voted "Best all around" my senior year. It put a lot of pressure on me to uphold an image. Years later, I realized the opinions of others will never cut you a check or change the course of the path you are on- unless you let it. Learning to care less about the opinions of the wrong people will give you a sense of freedom you never had and it's called a peace of mind. With that, you're able to focus your attention on things that matter like being passionate about the ones you love and your career. Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that isn't you so you can become who you were meant to be. If you're feeling stuck or unhappy with where you are or aren't in a relationship, your career or life....I suggest you keep looking till you find the path that brings out the passion in you.
Have a safe Labor Day weekend, all. Xo