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Riser

Posted on July 18, 2018 at 2:10 AM Comments comments (3)

I'm not an easy person to impress- never have been. I think this is particularly do to my uncle treating me like a princess growing up. When I say princess, I don't mean spoiling me. I mean opening doors, complimenting me, remembering special dates and making me feel safe. He would always say, "You're so sweet, but you're a tough cookie." It's true. I often hear from people, "I wouldn't want to see you mad." Not because I'm an angry person, but because I'm a happy person. I have a lot of patience for some things, but I also have none for bullshit. I used to be a pushover and just take things thrown my way, but not anymore. I haven't been that way for some time now. I stopped living for others and that made all the difference. The other day, a follower asked, "What does perfect look like to you?" Truth be told, there's no such thing as perfect. We all know this. But the closest type of character that defines this that I can think of is sung by Dierk Bentley. The song is called, "Riser." In the song, he sings he's a fighter, "mean enough to stare your demons down." I love that. I've put a LOT of walls up- after being fucked over from others, this tends to happen. You do anything to protect yourself, your soul. As much of an open book I am, those who truly know me, know there’s so much more to me than what people see. As loving as I am, I am also stubborn so I really need someone who's able to put me in my place, because sometimes I need it. We all do. Someone who's not going to give up on us, who'll continue to try and who's a "trier." Listen to the song. Figure out what you kind of companion you need. Be that. Stand tall, alone. When you do that, the right people for you will break down your walls... no matter how fucking high they are. Don't settle.



Be kind to yourself.

Posted on February 6, 2018 at 12:30 PM Comments comments (0)

When is a “loss” really a loss? In my opinion, it’s only when you allow it to be. Our minds are a very, very powerful force of nature and with self-discipline, we can become the master of our thoughts. The only difference between a good and bad thought is the difference in your control of it. If you don’t control what you THINK, you cannot control what you DO. A bad habit we all have, including myself, is over-thinking. Silence is golden may be true, but it surely does offer time to hear ourselves a bit louder. Is the voice in your head friendly? Who’s side is it on? Does it build you or tear you down? What does it say to you? Like all good things in life...practice makes perfect. Spend time, everyday, nurturing, training, and praying for confidence, security, and strength to be kind to yourself. That’s where love begins and ends. Without loving yourself, you’ll always listen to the doubt, insecurity, and anxiousness behind a voice who wants to kick down the badass you really are. So, sit...sit in the silence. But don’t become a victim to what that bitch says

No regrets.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

NEVER REGRET BEING A GOOD WOMAN TO THE WRONG MAN...

HIS LOSS.

Keep being a great woman...for yourself. Don’t let hurt, pain, or anger make you bitter. Don’t allow it to take ahold of the good that’s within you. When you do, you give power to someone no longer in your life to control, dictate, and influence your actions. Unfortunately, the only one who ends up losing is YOU. Losing potential opportunities because you’re unable to consider that someone may be good to you. Unable to see that not all people are the same. Take the time to heal your heart so that you can properly allow love back in when ready.

Good for you.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

IT TAKES TIME TO LEARN HOW TO BE ATTRACTED TO WHAT'S GOOD FOR US.


One of the most awakening lessons you’ll learn in life is what love really looks and feels like. For a long time, I thought love was about how someone makes you feel. I’ve learned through growth and age that love is many things, but for me...the most eye-opening lesson has been realizing that love is about giving without expectation of receiving. True love, never counts sacrifices, gifts given, and time spent with others. The true love that has lasted is the one that’s more focused on giving than receiving. It’s a love that’s genuine, from the heart, and creates a space that doesn’t influence jealousy, hate, or disappointment.

Chase the light.

Posted on January 18, 2018 at 6:10 PM Comments comments (0)

As many may know, I've been writing on my personal blog, www.shimarazipour.com, since I was 16. I often receive messages and emails from people I've never met seeking guidance. 8/10 times, it is often someone who has lost hope, faith, or feels like a failure for not being where they feel they "should be."

 

My blog has always humbled me because it reminds me that we're all fighting battles no one may know of.


 

If you feel lost today, keep this quote in mind: "Don't compare your life to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it's their time."

 

YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. Keep chasing the light & never give up. xoxo.

CrownED.

Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Fix her crown without letting the

world know it was crooked."


Gentlemen, I get a few emails from you questioning why the ladies you’re pursuing are standoffish, show no interest, etc. 9/10 Times, I’ve asked them when their previous relationship ended. Often, you don’t know. When pursuing a woman, it is important to know things that have shaped her. Not to “punish” her, rather to have a greater insight to know if she’s ready for commitment or what she’s looking for. Also, it allows you to know what parts of her need healing. Maybe it’s not her heart. Maybe it’s her thought process. For a short period, before I decided enough is enough, I had a negative outlook on men. All men. I didn’t care how good they treated me or that they’d send me flowers at work, I ignored all of them. Why? Because my head wasn’t in the game. The prince of Egypt could have tried to court me and I would have ignored him. A woman who’s been hurt is not a bitch. She’s guarded. Rather than trying to win her over with things she’s seen before, gifts and flowers, sit her down. Don’t butter up with words that have lost value. Just simply, get to know her. Find common interest, hobbies, and remind her of the good. With time, if she’s meant for you, she’ll always remember you as the guy who cared more about her heart than her ass. Women talk. We tell our friends about these things and good friends, won’t let good guys pass our friends. We tell them who’s worth giving a shot and who isn’t. So, be kind to her heart. It’s been broken. Be yourself and allow quality time, memories, and good conversation to give her that confidence she needs to try again.

I'm sorry I was being so crazy while you were treating me like shit.

Posted on January 11, 2018 at 4:55 PM Comments comments (0)

The wrong kind of people will have you feeling like you’re “crazy.” I think we’ve almost all been there before. Questioned our sanity, our mental state. When in reality, we were probably not in a good state. Remember, you alone are in control of the thoughts in your head. The same way you get to decide what you want to let bother you. However, having the wrong kind of lover who doesn’t acknowledge your hurts, strengthen your confidence, or boosts your ego won’t help. You alone must carry these things before, but the right person, will help you not only maintain them...but allow you to feel stronger in each. Never settle.

After a fight

Posted on January 8, 2018 at 5:20 PM Comments comments (0)

"Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. Who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. Fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight."


You’re deserving of the most delicious kind of love there is. The nurturing kind. The uplifting, loving, hopeless kind. The sort of love that keeps you wanting more, yet somehow brings you enough fulfillment. It’s not about finding the perfect person. Its also not about finding someone to complete you. You are complete alone. It’s about finding the person that makes your days sweeter, brightens your smile when you receive their texts, and reminds you how damn deserving you are of this amazing kind of love.

Unplug

Posted on January 8, 2018 at 5:20 PM Comments comments (0)


"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes...including you."


It’s always been in my nature to work, work, work. I get it from my parents. However, I also love my downtime -it’s how and where I refuel my drive, passion, and creativity. We all need a place or thing that gives that to us and I don’t think a person should be it. Find something you love like walking, laying in the park, doing a puzzle, hiking, etc. Whatever it is, build your schedule around it. That was the best advice a doctor once gave me. We put things like taking care of ourselves after we’ve build our busy schedules like getting a massage, facial, etc. The truth is- these are the important, take care of yourself activities that will ignite your fire again. Rest, when you need to. Today, I’m taking an off day and taking my dogs hiking. It’s important for me to spend time with them and more importantly, to feel at one with nature. It’s where I feel inspired to write for you. This year, I ask you to do more kind things for yourself. Watch how much you’ll glow with a little more rest.

Go after the dream.

Posted on January 2, 2018 at 1:25 PM Comments comments (0)

One of the best lessons I’m taking away from 2017 was learned from my cousin. Though initially her parents could not accept her relationship, she stuck by him, her beliefs, and her confidence in the relationship. I’ve learned if things matter to you, it doesn’t always matter what he or she thinks. At the end of the day, we are always responsible for our actions and how we feel. Everything that occurs is typically in result of a choice we once made. Put up a fight for what you love & never settle for less than butterflies. You deserve to live the life you’ve always imagined...however that looks to you. Don’t go into a career your parents want, don’t marry just because you feel you’re getting old. Never set limitations on yourself.