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Golden Year

Posted on September 30, 2018 at 9:15 PM Comments comments (0)


13 years ago, before beginning my senior year of high school, I developed an under-active thyroid condition. This brought on its own challenges I had to deal with for years...it never goes away. 5 years ago, after ending a toxic relationship, I began therapy. I went every week for over just a year. You probably remember my deep journal entries on my website under “therapy-inspired.” I’ve always needed justification for why things happened or need to happen, and why we do the things we do. Over the years, I was fortunate to have a diverse group of friendships/relationships that began and also ended in my life. Some lasted only for a season, others for a few years. I’m grateful for each person and the chapter they brought me, because it molded me into the person I am today. One of the greatest lessons I have been fortunate to learn overtime is that happiness doesn’t start with a relationship, a job, or college degree. It starts with your thoughts and what you tell yourself everyday. How you talk to yourself is KEY to not only your fundamental development in life, but how others perceive you. There are going to be enough people who don’t believe you’ll reach your goals, enough people who want you to do the things they do, and enough people who are just as lost in life that think they know what’s best for you (family included). We’re all in the same boat... trying to find our way. Don’t be afraid of the confusion, it’s normal. Don’t be afraid of being lost, you’ll eventually find your path. In the meantime, be confident in who you are and know you are DIVINE, my dear. In all your glory....you are ENOUGH. Don’t change to accommodate those who are uncomfortable in your choices, because I promise you...the right people for you will love you for YOU and that is always enough. Here’s to another year. 29 on the 29th.

Towards the clouds.

Posted on September 26, 2018 at 6:20 PM Comments comments (0)


In a few days, I’ll be turning 29. I’ve always enjoyed reminiscing back on the past year to share what I’ve learned in hopes that it may help someone. One of the greatest lessons I learned was the power of taking back control in your life. We have ALL faced hardships in our life that impacted our health, perspective, confidence, and peace. Whether it was a bad breakup, job loss, stress, toxic people in your life- whatever. We’ve all been there. Personally, I used to victimize myself to circumstances that occurred and say, “Why me?” This petty, negative thinking didn’t lead me far, and instead, hindered my growth because I identified my entire self with the trauma I experienced. When that’s all you choose to see in yourself, you have no idea who you are outside of the trauma and that is terrifying. It wasn’t until I realized that no one was standing in my way of achieving my goals, except me, that I gained back my power. It still takes practice, but I try to remind myself that keeping my head high is the only way to see things more clearly. When shit hits the fan and life hands you a bitter lemon, you can choose to take it and just accept what’s been handed to you. But, that’s not a fun way to live. Instead, you can choose to take that same bitter lemon and make lemonade from it... meaning you use it to grow and become better than before. If you never tasted a bad lemon, just like not experiencing tough times, you wouldn’t know how to appreciate the more enjoyable ones. Remember, the bad times make the good times better so don’t be afraid of facing them, be afraid of staying in the bad times. Remember the only way to see the light is to keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you. ✨

 

Bad Words

Posted on August 27, 2018 at 12:30 PM Comments comments (0)


DON'T MIX BAD WORDS WITH YOUR BAD MOOD.

YOU'LL HAVE MANY OPPORTUNITIES TO CHANGE A MOOD,

BUT YOU'LL NEVER GET THE OPPORTUNITY TO REPLACE THE WORDS YOU SPOKE.



Life is too short to spend minutes, hours, days, or weeks angry. It’s just simply, too short. We all have a choice and that’s to be the bigger person everyday, despite circumstances... we must practice being more patient and willing to listen. I truly believe some people will bring out the best in you and others the worst. What tends to happen with people that bring out the worst in you is a toxic relationship between you develops that makes you sick, brings you anxiety, causes restless nights, and affects your day emotionally and physically weighing you down. Fighting is inevitable- that’s not what defines a relationship that is great. There’s no such thing. It’s mastering the art of respecting one another when you’re most frustrated with the least amount of patience. It’s realizing that love is so much stronger than any sudden anger, upset, or frustration you feel. It’s communicating. It’s listening. It’s forgiveness and most importantly, probably above all, it’s realizing no one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all will have our good and days. But it’s remember that the bad times make the good times better and as @jlo recently said in her speech at the VMA’s, “My life is sweeter and better with you in it because you make me realize that everyday; the sky is not the limit. The universe is infinite, and so is what we can accomplish together, with love and trust and understanding.” That is love.

Full CIRCLE Moments.

Posted on August 23, 2018 at 3:55 PM Comments comments (0)


This picture popped up on my “memories” and it made me laugh. This photo is from a few years ago. I was at Cowboy Country, a local line-dancing club. I’ve never been big on going out and it’s primarily because I prefer to spend time with loved ones in places I can enjoy solely their company. It’s not always easy to do this when in loud and crowded places. Anyways...the reason why I wanted to share this photo with you is because I wanted to share the difference between me then and now. As I mention often, if you’re not changing, you’re not growing. This was me, single, after many years. I had finally reached this super awkward stage in my life where I thought I wanted to date, but I was also extremely cynical to love, guys, and dating. I stopped trying, caring, and wanting to find love. I thought once you have it and lose it, it’s never the same. The reality is, it’s not. When you’ve had your heart broken once, you don’t look at love or people the same. You have a guard up, a barrier. Like me in this picture, standing behind a wall rather than out...on the dance floor where it’s so much easier to meet a guy. That’s the thing about saying we’re ready for love. Just because you’re “out” there, it doesn’t always mean you are open and willing to give it a shot. This false belief in our minds that we are ready or when people want to convince you that you’re ready is the beginning of all things painful. You need to heal, my dear. No one knows how long that takes and sometimes you may think you’re healed and you’re not. But I promise, promise, promise...when you know you’ve healed, you’re no longer the one looking for love. Instead, it finds you and sometimes in the same place you were looking. 


Riser

Posted on July 18, 2018 at 2:10 AM Comments comments (3)

I'm not an easy person to impress- never have been. I think this is particularly do to my uncle treating me like a princess growing up. When I say princess, I don't mean spoiling me. I mean opening doors, complimenting me, remembering special dates and making me feel safe. He would always say, "You're so sweet, but you're a tough cookie." It's true. I often hear from people, "I wouldn't want to see you mad." Not because I'm an angry person, but because I'm a happy person. I have a lot of patience for some things, but I also have none for bullshit. I used to be a pushover and just take things thrown my way, but not anymore. I haven't been that way for some time now. I stopped living for others and that made all the difference. The other day, a follower asked, "What does perfect look like to you?" Truth be told, there's no such thing as perfect. We all know this. But the closest type of character that defines this that I can think of is sung by Dierk Bentley. The song is called, "Riser." In the song, he sings he's a fighter, "mean enough to stare your demons down." I love that. I've put a LOT of walls up- after being fucked over from others, this tends to happen. You do anything to protect yourself, your soul. As much of an open book I am, those who truly know me, know there’s so much more to me than what people see. As loving as I am, I am also stubborn so I really need someone who's able to put me in my place, because sometimes I need it. We all do. Someone who's not going to give up on us, who'll continue to try and who's a "trier." Listen to the song. Figure out what you kind of companion you need. Be that. Stand tall, alone. When you do that, the right people for you will break down your walls... no matter how fucking high they are. Don't settle.



Be kind to yourself.

Posted on February 6, 2018 at 12:30 PM Comments comments (0)

When is a “loss” really a loss? In my opinion, it’s only when you allow it to be. Our minds are a very, very powerful force of nature and with self-discipline, we can become the master of our thoughts. The only difference between a good and bad thought is the difference in your control of it. If you don’t control what you THINK, you cannot control what you DO. A bad habit we all have, including myself, is over-thinking. Silence is golden may be true, but it surely does offer time to hear ourselves a bit louder. Is the voice in your head friendly? Who’s side is it on? Does it build you or tear you down? What does it say to you? Like all good things in life...practice makes perfect. Spend time, everyday, nurturing, training, and praying for confidence, security, and strength to be kind to yourself. That’s where love begins and ends. Without loving yourself, you’ll always listen to the doubt, insecurity, and anxiousness behind a voice who wants to kick down the badass you really are. So, sit...sit in the silence. But don’t become a victim to what that bitch says

No regrets.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

NEVER REGRET BEING A GOOD WOMAN TO THE WRONG MAN...

HIS LOSS.

Keep being a great woman...for yourself. Don’t let hurt, pain, or anger make you bitter. Don’t allow it to take ahold of the good that’s within you. When you do, you give power to someone no longer in your life to control, dictate, and influence your actions. Unfortunately, the only one who ends up losing is YOU. Losing potential opportunities because you’re unable to consider that someone may be good to you. Unable to see that not all people are the same. Take the time to heal your heart so that you can properly allow love back in when ready.

Good for you.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

IT TAKES TIME TO LEARN HOW TO BE ATTRACTED TO WHAT'S GOOD FOR US.


One of the most awakening lessons you’ll learn in life is what love really looks and feels like. For a long time, I thought love was about how someone makes you feel. I’ve learned through growth and age that love is many things, but for me...the most eye-opening lesson has been realizing that love is about giving without expectation of receiving. True love, never counts sacrifices, gifts given, and time spent with others. The true love that has lasted is the one that’s more focused on giving than receiving. It’s a love that’s genuine, from the heart, and creates a space that doesn’t influence jealousy, hate, or disappointment.

Chase the light.

Posted on January 18, 2018 at 6:10 PM Comments comments (0)

As many may know, I've been writing on my personal blog, www.shimarazipour.com, since I was 16. I often receive messages and emails from people I've never met seeking guidance. 8/10 times, it is often someone who has lost hope, faith, or feels like a failure for not being where they feel they "should be."

 

My blog has always humbled me because it reminds me that we're all fighting battles no one may know of.


 

If you feel lost today, keep this quote in mind: "Don't compare your life to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it's their time."

 

YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. Keep chasing the light & never give up. xoxo.

CrownED.

Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Fix her crown without letting the

world know it was crooked."


Gentlemen, I get a few emails from you questioning why the ladies you’re pursuing are standoffish, show no interest, etc. 9/10 Times, I’ve asked them when their previous relationship ended. Often, you don’t know. When pursuing a woman, it is important to know things that have shaped her. Not to “punish” her, rather to have a greater insight to know if she’s ready for commitment or what she’s looking for. Also, it allows you to know what parts of her need healing. Maybe it’s not her heart. Maybe it’s her thought process. For a short period, before I decided enough is enough, I had a negative outlook on men. All men. I didn’t care how good they treated me or that they’d send me flowers at work, I ignored all of them. Why? Because my head wasn’t in the game. The prince of Egypt could have tried to court me and I would have ignored him. A woman who’s been hurt is not a bitch. She’s guarded. Rather than trying to win her over with things she’s seen before, gifts and flowers, sit her down. Don’t butter up with words that have lost value. Just simply, get to know her. Find common interest, hobbies, and remind her of the good. With time, if she’s meant for you, she’ll always remember you as the guy who cared more about her heart than her ass. Women talk. We tell our friends about these things and good friends, won’t let good guys pass our friends. We tell them who’s worth giving a shot and who isn’t. So, be kind to her heart. It’s been broken. Be yourself and allow quality time, memories, and good conversation to give her that confidence she needs to try again.