|Posted on July 18, 2018 at 2:10 AM||comments (3)|
I'm not an easy person to impress- never have been. I think this is particularly do to my uncle treating me like a princess growing up. When I say princess, I don't mean spoiling me. I mean opening doors, complimenting me, remembering special dates and making me feel safe. He would always say, "You're so sweet, but you're a tough cookie." It's true. I often hear from people, "I wouldn't want to see you mad." Not because I'm an angry person, but because I'm a happy person. I have a lot of patience for some things, but I also have none for bullshit. I used to be a pushover and just take things thrown my way, but not anymore. I haven't been that way for some time now. I stopped living for others and that made all the difference. The other day, a follower asked, "What does perfect look like to you?" Truth be told, there's no such thing as perfect. We all know this. But the closest type of character that defines this that I can think of is sung by Dierk Bentley. The song is called, "Riser." In the song, he sings he's a fighter, "mean enough to stare your demons down." I love that. I've put a LOT of walls up- after being fucked over from others, this tends to happen. You do anything to protect yourself, your soul. As much of an open book I am, those who truly know me, know there’s so much more to me than what people see. As loving as I am, I am also stubborn so I really need someone who's able to put me in my place, because sometimes I need it. We all do. Someone who's not going to give up on us, who'll continue to try and who's a "trier." Listen to the song. Figure out what you kind of companion you need. Be that. Stand tall, alone. When you do that, the right people for you will break down your walls... no matter how fucking high they are. Don't settle.
|Posted on July 18, 2018 at 2:10 AM||comments (0)|
Have you read “The 5 Love Languages?” How about “Attached?” We all have different perceptions of what love is and how we feel it. I think the root of most failed relationships is not knowing or knowing and not giving that person the kind of love they need. Because we all love differently, we measure how fulfilled we feel in our love unique from our partners. For example, you may feel love by receiving gifts. This means that you may enjoy holding hands and them doing the dishes, but to you, love is defined by receiving roses randomly. Let’s say your primary love language is quality time. You crave intimate moments of being together & making memories. No matter how many gifts they give you, it wouldn’t compensate for the time with them you crave. Simple, right? Find out what your better half needs to feel loved and do it. The tricky part, though, is understanding how THEY perceive that love language. For example, you know their love language is quality time so you think by watching t.v. with them you are spending time together. Nope! That’s not always the case. To some, it means the T.V. has your attention- not your spouse. They may view quality time together as time doing things involving your undivided attention. These books opened my knowledge to a greater understanding of what love is because it has helped me realize that your primary love language will help you know what it means and how you can use it to connect with others. #read
|Posted on February 6, 2018 at 12:30 PM||comments (0)|
When is a “loss” really a loss? In my opinion, it’s only when you allow it to be. Our minds are a very, very powerful force of nature and with self-discipline, we can become the master of our thoughts. The only difference between a good and bad thought is the difference in your control of it. If you don’t control what you THINK, you cannot control what you DO. A bad habit we all have, including myself, is over-thinking. Silence is golden may be true, but it surely does offer time to hear ourselves a bit louder. Is the voice in your head friendly? Who’s side is it on? Does it build you or tear you down? What does it say to you? Like all good things in life...practice makes perfect. Spend time, everyday, nurturing, training, and praying for confidence, security, and strength to be kind to yourself. That’s where love begins and ends. Without loving yourself, you’ll always listen to the doubt, insecurity, and anxiousness behind a voice who wants to kick down the badass you really are. So, sit...sit in the silence. But don’t become a victim to what that bitch says
|Posted on February 5, 2018 at 3:25 PM||comments (0)|
PEOPLE LOOK SO DIFFERENT ONCE YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THEM ANYMORE.
Throughout life, you’ll meet people who will make you feel different than others. Some will be amazing and others, not so much. The people we tend to remember the most are the ones who’ve made us feel both... crazy good & crazy bad. These people are sometimes unforgettable and quite frankly, I think that’s okay. It’s ok to remember how quickly feelings can change and how quickly people’s feelings for us can change too. It’s important so that you remember that the only thing consistent in life is your love for yourself and if that is not nourished and cared for, you’ll be left alone if someone’s feelings for you slip like quicksand. My suggestion? Don’t forget these people who’ve made you feel amazing then shitty. Remember them. For YOU. Remember what they’ve done without letting it weigh you down. Remember, that you will truly forget what they’ve said and maybe what they’ve done, but you’ll never forget how they made you feel. Maybe it’ll also shape how you treat others. In the end, that’s all we’re remembered for, anyway....how we made others feel.
|Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM||comments (0)|
I’ve seen so many amazing, deserving, loving, and valuable men AND women settle for less than they deserve. I think we all do it-stick around, hoping people will change. I get it; trust me. I get it because I was there before- that push/pull relationship. God, it is so toxic. It consumes you. It drains you. It causes you to forget YOU! Once you learn to love yourself and value your own time, solitude, beauty, and accept it for what it is, you’ll realize how consuming, annoying, and far from cute loving the wrong kind of people is. Remember, it drains you. After learning who I am and what I want, nothing is sexier than hearing from your spouse, “Do you.” When they say it in a positive, supportive, non-passive way...you know they not only want you to live your best life and to reach your worth, but they’ll be there to support you rather than weigh you down. Pick and choose wisely. Not everyone is worth your energy.
|Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:05 AM||comments (0)|
One of the most heartbreaking things I see on a daily basis is women who’ve forgotten what they bring to the table. In short, their worth. Why does this happen? Well, if I had to guess it’s because when a breakup occurs, a natural thought that we immediately believe is that it was our fault. We hurt and to make sense of it, we tend to blame ourselves because it’s easier than thinking rationally as to why it didn’t work. I spent a looooong time reading, studying, and practicing a lot of the relationship “techniques” books teach you on having a successful relationship. Very few teach you the simple key that I had to learn on my own time. It sounds simple and I know many of you can argue that you do in fact “love yourself,” but I beg to differ. Loving yourself is an art that is so fucking important to every aspect of having a rich life. No person, object, career, sport, place, or high can replace the importance of loving yourself without condition. By that, I mean that even when you are not your best, when your ugly side shows...YOU still love yourself and accept your flaws. This, my dear, is what love is all about. Loving someone unconditionally, without expectation or default when tension arrives. I ask you to focus today on loving yourself. If you’re lost, or don’t know where to begin, I’m only an email away.
|Posted on January 23, 2018 at 10:45 PM||comments (0)|
When I published this book of my first 100 blogs ever written on Life Moves On, it felt so rewarding. I’ve always known I was born to be a writer, first and foremost. My goals through writing have always been to help others find their purpose, inspire them when they feel weak, to offer words of wisdom, find strength within, and most of all, to reassure people they are never alone.
My blog has connected me with SO many people around the world. From China to Kenya, I never would have imagined how many people seek to be heard. That’s all we need sometimes in life...to know someone, anyone cares. I’m proud to say after finishing this book, I published two others. If you read or have read my writing, you’d know two things about me. 1.) I wear my heart on my sleeve and 2.) I try to find the lesson/purpose behind everything.
This optimism is what is my driving force everyday. I’m so grateful that I am able to still practice my writing daily and it continues to help me follow my greatest passion in life, which is to help others. Even in my real estate business, I help people with a chapter of their lives. I’ve just been offered a deal to write another book and I am excited that it’ll be on a topic very close to my heart.
I am sharing this not to brag or show off, but to hopefully remind you that YOU are worthy of whatever lifestyle, dreams, and goals you have for yourself. The first step is to just show up. The second, is to remain humble and kind. Never give up on you because I promise there will be a lot of people hoping you did. So, thank you to those who’ve supported my writing over the years- it has not gone unnoticed. Thank you for allowing me to be 100% raw and vulnerable with you.
|Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM||comments (0)|
"Cheating is a choice not a mistake."
Stop sugarcoating a fuck up as a weakness. Stop justifying why someone did what they did. Accept that the person did something low, inconsiderate, and hurtful. Yes, they may have been weak, to fall for temptation...but you don’t have to be weak back. Know you’re worth having the kind of relationship that doesn’t hurt. You’re worth not having to stress where or who someone may be with. You are worth feeling secure in your relationships.
|Posted on January 11, 2018 at 4:55 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted on January 11, 2018 at 4:55 PM||comments (0)|
The wrong kind of people will have you feeling like you’re “crazy.” I think we’ve almost all been there before. Questioned our sanity, our mental state. When in reality, we were probably not in a good state. Remember, you alone are in control of the thoughts in your head. The same way you get to decide what you want to let bother you. However, having the wrong kind of lover who doesn’t acknowledge your hurts, strengthen your confidence, or boosts your ego won’t help. You alone must carry these things before, but the right person, will help you not only maintain them...but allow you to feel stronger in each. Never settle.