|Posted on June 4, 2018 at 12:10 PM||comments (0)|
One of the most important things you can have for yourself is standards. This includes many things from the life you want to the personalities, people, and energies you’ll allow into your space. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve become more and more particular of how I spend my time as it always feels limited. A lot of my extra time is spent in ways that ground me. Whether that is being outdoors in nature, reading, writing, cuddling my dogs, listening to music, or spending time with loved ones...I value each indefinitely and know the importance of maintaining them in my life, no matter how crazy my schedule is. When you have standards for yourself and the life you want, it is not limited to materialistic items like the home you live in, car you drive, or occupation you have. Standards is so much more than that. It is how you allow people to speak to you and treat you. Remember that people will show you their colors and it is your choice if you want to see them for what they are or through rose-colored lens. When people mistreat you or test your integrity and trust, remember who you are and why you’re worthy of so much more than that.
Don’t be afraid to check people when they take advantage of your kindness and most of all, don’t be afraid of having standards for yourself. It takes courage to stand up for yourself, but it is not only necessary.... it should be the norm. Don’t take anyone’s negativity and drown the toxicity that tries to enter your sacred space. Vibes are contagious, babe. Be sure to only allow the good in and let the good out. Hope you all had a beautiful Memorial Day weekend. Much love, Shima. Xo #loveyourselffirst
|Posted on June 4, 2018 at 12:05 PM||comments (0)|
Growing up, we’re always told to be ourselves. You’ve heard it, I’ve heard it, we’ve all heard it…. “Be yourself.” The truth is, most of spend years trying to find who we are. Knowing who you are is more than knowing your likes and dislikes. It is knowing what brings you peace, happiness, and joy. It is knowing the parts of you that aren’t so pretty and being ok with them. It is about knowing what ignites your fire and fuels your ambition. Each chapter of our lives brings new awakenings of we are and who we are not. The challenging part is carrying parts of the person you were into a new chapter without punishing that person. We think that just because our personality, likes, dislikes, goals, etc. didn’t work in a previous relationship, we may not be able to be that way in the next. That is not true. What is important is not changing who you are to win someone’s heart. Instead, find someone who likes you for being you. Just because a past relationship didn’t work and they scolded you for having too much heart or too much drive doesn’t mean it won’t work for you in the next. Remember, it Is easy to be wanted. You want to be valued for your character, differences, and what you bring to the table. Someone’s “I’m tired of this” is another man or woman’s, “I can get used to this.” So, be more than ok with who you are, love. LOVE that person so damn much that no one can make you doubt the you, that you know. It’s not that you’re not right for them, some people aren’t right for YOU. You have to believe that you are good enough and worth it. Once you’re able to master the art of loving yourself and all that you entail, no one can steal that love from you and trust me, people want to be around that energy. Do you, be you, and own you. #loveyourselffirst #energiesarecontagious
|Posted on February 6, 2018 at 12:30 PM||comments (0)|
When is a “loss” really a loss? In my opinion, it’s only when you allow it to be. Our minds are a very, very powerful force of nature and with self-discipline, we can become the master of our thoughts. The only difference between a good and bad thought is the difference in your control of it. If you don’t control what you THINK, you cannot control what you DO. A bad habit we all have, including myself, is over-thinking. Silence is golden may be true, but it surely does offer time to hear ourselves a bit louder. Is the voice in your head friendly? Who’s side is it on? Does it build you or tear you down? What does it say to you? Like all good things in life...practice makes perfect. Spend time, everyday, nurturing, training, and praying for confidence, security, and strength to be kind to yourself. That’s where love begins and ends. Without loving yourself, you’ll always listen to the doubt, insecurity, and anxiousness behind a voice who wants to kick down the badass you really are. So, sit...sit in the silence. But don’t become a victim to what that bitch says
|Posted on February 5, 2018 at 3:25 PM||comments (0)|
PEOPLE LOOK SO DIFFERENT ONCE YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THEM ANYMORE.
Throughout life, you’ll meet people who will make you feel different than others. Some will be amazing and others, not so much. The people we tend to remember the most are the ones who’ve made us feel both... crazy good & crazy bad. These people are sometimes unforgettable and quite frankly, I think that’s okay. It’s ok to remember how quickly feelings can change and how quickly people’s feelings for us can change too. It’s important so that you remember that the only thing consistent in life is your love for yourself and if that is not nourished and cared for, you’ll be left alone if someone’s feelings for you slip like quicksand. My suggestion? Don’t forget these people who’ve made you feel amazing then shitty. Remember them. For YOU. Remember what they’ve done without letting it weigh you down. Remember, that you will truly forget what they’ve said and maybe what they’ve done, but you’ll never forget how they made you feel. Maybe it’ll also shape how you treat others. In the end, that’s all we’re remembered for, anyway....how we made others feel.
|Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM||comments (0)|
I’ve seen so many amazing, deserving, loving, and valuable men AND women settle for less than they deserve. I think we all do it-stick around, hoping people will change. I get it; trust me. I get it because I was there before- that push/pull relationship. God, it is so toxic. It consumes you. It drains you. It causes you to forget YOU! Once you learn to love yourself and value your own time, solitude, beauty, and accept it for what it is, you’ll realize how consuming, annoying, and far from cute loving the wrong kind of people is. Remember, it drains you. After learning who I am and what I want, nothing is sexier than hearing from your spouse, “Do you.” When they say it in a positive, supportive, non-passive way...you know they not only want you to live your best life and to reach your worth, but they’ll be there to support you rather than weigh you down. Pick and choose wisely. Not everyone is worth your energy.
|Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM||comments (0)|
IT TAKES TIME TO LEARN HOW TO BE ATTRACTED TO WHAT'S GOOD FOR US.
One of the most awakening lessons you’ll learn in life is what love really looks and feels like. For a long time, I thought love was about how someone makes you feel. I’ve learned through growth and age that love is many things, but for me...the most eye-opening lesson has been realizing that love is about giving without expectation of receiving. True love, never counts sacrifices, gifts given, and time spent with others. The true love that has lasted is the one that’s more focused on giving than receiving. It’s a love that’s genuine, from the heart, and creates a space that doesn’t influence jealousy, hate, or disappointment.
|Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:05 AM||comments (0)|
I’ve always said people are going to do whatever they want, regardless of their circumstances. You can be the most amazing person in the world, whether as a spouse, employee, or even a family member. Labels unfortunately don’t always mean the same thing to others and also don’t stop people from disrespecting you. Because of this, I’ve learned that going into anything new will be scary and you can’t avoid pain as it’s inevitable. You can only wish and hope that people have the same heart as you. In life, you’ve got to take chances and that sometimes means putting your heart on the line. For what it’s worth, everything in life whether gone good or bad, is a lesson.
|Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:05 AM||comments (0)|
One of the most heartbreaking things I see on a daily basis is women who’ve forgotten what they bring to the table. In short, their worth. Why does this happen? Well, if I had to guess it’s because when a breakup occurs, a natural thought that we immediately believe is that it was our fault. We hurt and to make sense of it, we tend to blame ourselves because it’s easier than thinking rationally as to why it didn’t work. I spent a looooong time reading, studying, and practicing a lot of the relationship “techniques” books teach you on having a successful relationship. Very few teach you the simple key that I had to learn on my own time. It sounds simple and I know many of you can argue that you do in fact “love yourself,” but I beg to differ. Loving yourself is an art that is so fucking important to every aspect of having a rich life. No person, object, career, sport, place, or high can replace the importance of loving yourself without condition. By that, I mean that even when you are not your best, when your ugly side shows...YOU still love yourself and accept your flaws. This, my dear, is what love is all about. Loving someone unconditionally, without expectation or default when tension arrives. I ask you to focus today on loving yourself. If you’re lost, or don’t know where to begin, I’m only an email away.
|Posted on January 18, 2018 at 6:10 PM||comments (0)|
As many may know, I've been writing on my personal blog, www.shimarazipour.com, since I was 16. I often receive messages and emails from people I've never met seeking guidance. 8/10 times, it is often someone who has lost hope, faith, or feels like a failure for not being where they feel they "should be."
My blog has always humbled me because it reminds me that we're all fighting battles no one may know of.
If you feel lost today, keep this quote in mind: "Don't compare your life to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it's their time."
YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. Keep chasing the light & never give up. xoxo.
|Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM||comments (0)|
"Cheating is a choice not a mistake."
Stop sugarcoating a fuck up as a weakness. Stop justifying why someone did what they did. Accept that the person did something low, inconsiderate, and hurtful. Yes, they may have been weak, to fall for temptation...but you don’t have to be weak back. Know you’re worth having the kind of relationship that doesn’t hurt. You’re worth not having to stress where or who someone may be with. You are worth feeling secure in your relationships.