|Posted on April 6, 2015 at 3:10 PM|
In a recent interview, Khloe Kardashian admitted to forever loving Lamar. I admired her so much more after hearing her say, “…and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.” I admire her because she isn’t afraid to admit something so many people want her to deny- the raw, aching truth. It still hurts. There is no endpoint for healing. Some of us never heal, we just cope differently. Some of us don’t forget, we just don’t remember as often. Some of us don’t miss them, but miss the memories. There is no right or wrong way to grief, but there is one right way to heal and that is to be honest with yourself. I notice that so often after a breakup, we are afraid to miss, want, or desire those no longer with us- especially if they’ve hurt us. The truth is, we are OWN biggest critics. Our fear of being judged for our emotions tend to cause us to ignore them and deny them, resulting in greater anxiety down the line. I know it’s easier said than done sometimes, but you have to learn to stop faking it until you make it. Know your truth and don’t deny it. Know it hurts and be ok with it. Be ok with the fact that you’re still healing and every now and then, you miss them. Never apologize for what you feel. It’s like saying sorry for being real. It’s ok not to be ok. Life moves on, but at your own pace.