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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about goes on."- Robert Frost


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Right for you.

Posted on October 20, 2017 at 6:05 PM Comments comments (0)


I’ve learned that it’s important to forgive people who’ve wronged you. Forgiveness is something you do for you. It’s something that opens space in your heart to heal. It’s something that helps eliminate carrying baggage with you. Forgiving isn’t something you do for others. It’s for you. To get to it, though, it takes time. It needs to be done on your own whatever way you feel good in. For me, forgiving didn’t come easy. It took a lot of reading, writing, hikes, therapy sessions, music, and time with nature to mend the parts of me that were broken. It took lots of reading to understand why people do things. I think this is when I began to forgive, truthfully. It was never because I got a “sorry.” It was never because I had an aha moment. It was never because of them. It was because I was tired of letting someone who no longer was in my life dictate my choices, feelings, and happiness. That’s forgiveness, love. It’s forgiving yourself, too. No one is perfect and your journey was especially designed to bring you from one page of your book to another. Just do me a favor and be ok with living life on your own terms. Go against what’s expected of you. Don’t give in to bullshit people and their bullshit stories of how you should feel, be or should have handled anything. You did what was right at the time and what was right for you. That’s all that matters anyway.

Fall seven times, stand up eight.

Posted on October 20, 2017 at 5:55 PM Comments comments (0)

Don’t give up on a dream just because of the time it’ll take to get there or because another door slammed shut on your face. Be open to what you’ll discover and don’t be afraid of opening a new one, even if there’s a chance it may close on you, too. Just be wise enough to know when to go and when to stay. Some opportunities, for all intents and purposes, look like a brick wall. Impossible. But what you’ll soon discover is that when something is worth discovering, like what may be hidden on the other side, we find a way.

As they say, where there’s a will, there’s a way. Sometimes we build walls to see who is patient enough to find a way in. I just hope that you don’t give in to fear when the right one is standing there. You may fall trying to find your way in, but don’t let it stop you from reaching the top. Fall seven times, stand up eight.

Mental Health

Posted on October 19, 2017 at 3:00 PM Comments comments (0)

"Yeah, you're attractive,

but are you good for my mental health?"

You don’t realize how heavy toxicity is on your soul until you’re far and free from it. By free I mean that you’ve spent some time alone to find yourself again. The other day, I tried #Reiki. I went to @santamonicahealing and decided to give it a shot. I’ve only heard good things about it and being the open-minded person I am, I always believe in giving things a chance. I was instantly welcomed and felt a great sense of energy being there. I was simply reminded with a hug, session, and some time listening to what my soul needed that I’ve come a long way. Yes, a long way. I used to take so much stupid shit in relationships because I thought that’s what you’re supposed to do. You’re supposed to be there for people through the highs and lows. You’re supposed to be their shoulder when times are rough. Well, guess what? Who’s say you’re supposed to do shit? Especially when it’s not being reciprocated. That’s the thing about a push-pull relationship. Only one person is giving and the other is pushing you away. You know what that does to a person’s mental health? It fucks them up. It makes them think that something is wrong with them for wanting to help, care, and give. Not everyone is ready for the love you give, but you know who’s always waiting for a little more? You. Your mind, your body, your soul. It may fight you, but with a little loving, patience, and giving...your soul will thank you for loving it like you’ve been trying to love everyone around you. My dear, so many people try to escape seasons of loneliness and as fall and winter roll around, please don’t feel “lonely.” If you are feeling sad or alone, feel it. Be in it. Until you feel like a masterpiece alone, you’ll never connect with people for the right reasons. Be the person you’ve been to others and watch how quickly you’ll grow. You come first.

Museum of Art.

Posted on September 9, 2017 at 2:05 AM Comments comments (0)

I talk to a lot of different kind of women everyday.

Over the years, I've learned the importance of being compassionate for people and where they are in their journey. I try not to get upset when I'm looking at a beautiful woman who's broken. I have to remember that maybe she hasn't gotten to the page in her book where she realizes what she has to offer someone and hasn't gotten to the plot of the story where her strength is regained. I sympathize with these girls...because I was once her. The women I'm talking about are not beautiful because of their beautiful skin, hair, eyes, or smile. No, they're beautiful because of their hearts. I think, if they're capable of loving someone so unworthy of their hearts....can you imagine what loving the right person will do to them? How differently they'll shine, how much value they'll bring to those around them, and how happy they feel. So happy that from the inside out, they glow. A lot of times, these women are simply a museum of art in a room full of losers who have their eyes shut...simply incapable of capturing their uniqueness and beauty. The truth is, I'm not worried about these kind of women. No, I never am. Because I know that a time will come where she'll remember who she is and the game will change. She's just got to keep looking until she finds what's within. ✨ #loveyourself �� @leeniephotography #optoutside

Stepping stones.

Posted on September 9, 2017 at 2:00 AM Comments comments (0)

A piece from my book, This is what it feels like. ��

"The truth of the matter is breakups are a shock to our consciousness because for so long we were unified with another soul and souls recognize each other by vibes. Losing another soul is like losing a sensation in ourselves. It's like learning to walk again. It's new. It's strange. It's change. Don't be afraid of the unfamiliar, love. No matter how much it hurts- let it hurt. No matter how much it changes you- let it change you. Don't resist what needs to occur to take you where you've always needed to be. That's the beauty of the journey. No matter how much you want to think you're in control of it, your density has been predetermined. So, let go and just enjoy it for what it is- a stepping stone to who you'll become."

�� @leeniephotography

Feel the sun from the inside.

Posted on September 2, 2017 at 11:30 PM Comments comments (0)

It's crazy what happens when you realize happiness is a choice. You suddenly gain this sense of power you never had before. You control. I remember feeling like a victim before to things that happened in my life because of how I chose to perceive them. I viewed them as things happening to me, not for me. When we're in the mix of emotions and feelings, it's easy to feel conflicted with where we are in our lives. It took some time, tears, lots of reading, talking out loud, and reminiscing back on times that hurt to realize I can forgive people who never apologized. I can be the creator of my happiness and I can choose who I cut from my life. When I decided to do this, from that moment on, it's like I found a new light to carry me through all the darkness I had once faced. No one was holding me back from reaching my happy but me. I choose to be happy. My friend @leeniephotography is scheduling holiday shoots and if you mention "Shima" you will receive 10% off. 

Path taken.

Posted on September 2, 2017 at 11:30 PM Comments comments (0)

One of the most questions I'm asked daily on my blog is, "How long does it take to stop hurting?" Healing takes time. It takes longer for some than others, but it doesn't mean a person is weak because they feel. Think of pain, healing, growing, changing, overcoming, and enduring like a sunset. There's all kinds of rays of light that go into a sunset, but it happens so fast that we can't remember the last seconds. When I reminisce on healing, it's very black and white. I remember the dark then the light. You don't see the bad days in photographs, but they're the days that get you from one happy sunset to the other. I know it sucks right now, but your dark rays are preparing for something greater. A light you can't see and maybe came always believe in. These wounds will one day give you strength. You've just got to believe me. I'm not afraid of going to battle anymore. I'm more afraid of becoming numb.. not caring, not feeling. I feel that way to some and it's frightening. To not care at all, after caring for so long. Give me battle wounds...remind me that I can feel and that I always make it out alive.

Ignited Passion.

Posted on September 2, 2017 at 11:15 PM Comments comments (0)

I think one of the rockiest journeys we take in life is figuring out who we are - detached from other's opinions and perceptions of us.

In all honesty, I used to care a lot how I was perceived and it really effected me more when I was voted "Best all around" my senior year. It put a lot of pressure on me to uphold an image. Years later, I realized the opinions of others will never cut you a check or change the course of the path you are on- unless you let it. Learning to care less about the opinions of the wrong people will give you a sense of freedom you never had and it's called a peace of mind. With that, you're able to focus your attention on things that matter like being passionate about the ones you love and your career. Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about unbecoming everything that isn't you so you can become who you were meant to be. If you're feeling stuck or unhappy with where you are or aren't in a relationship, your career or life....I suggest you keep looking till you find the path that brings out the passion in you.

�� @leeniephotography.

Have a safe Labor Day weekend, all. Xo

Get the picture.

Posted on September 2, 2017 at 11:15 PM Comments comments (0)
"Many have an image, few get the picture." ❤️

The other day, a follower messaged me concerned with her inability to make friends easily. It got me thinking. We've come to live in a society where we believe the number of followers we hold determines the number of "friends" we have. It's far from the truth. If you were to scroll through your FB, Insta, Twitter, Snap, etc. list of friends- how many know your darkest secrets? How many know what makes you laugh, what makes you cringe or what makes YOU, you? Not many. I've always said I'd rather have one good friend than 100 fake ones. You can't put a price tag on someone who genuinely cares for you. I have a lot of good friends and then I have a handful of great friends and just a few best friends. Those people don't rate differently in my heart. I love them all. When you're young, you seek to find ways to fit in with the crowd but it's only as you age that you realize the odd ducklings were always the most beautiful. Shine from the inside out and the right people will come...and stay. Just do me a favor and never let anyone dull your sparkle, make you feel less than you are, or take advantage of your kindness. Be good to people...but better to yourself. #nonewfriends �� @leeniephotography

Into the light.

Posted on August 30, 2017 at 6:05 PM Comments comments (0)

Tonight my friend @leeniephotography asked to shoot some portrait shots of me. (this is just a sneak peek shot with her iPhone) What I like most about her style of photography is that she captures her subject in their most natural state. She talks, laughs, and makes you feel completely comfortable & slightly vulnerable. I can't wait to get more of the photos back so I can share with you the story we captured. I've been receiving a lot of messages lately asking to share more pictures of the "girl behind the writing." I've been sharing my writing publicly on my website since I was 16 and many of you have also inspired my writing. Each year I've faced obstacles, trials, and growth. Despite the tough times, I'm grateful that you allow me to share my journey. No one deserves to feel alone and like my good friend Michelle has taught me, sometimes we just need to look out at the ocean and remember how small our problems are in comparison to the world out there. I hope you always keep your eyes on the light.