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Kick the dust up

Posted on June 1, 2017 at 2:15 AM Comments comments (0)

I went on a hike yesterday. Just a few weeks ago, all the flowers had just bloomed and the trail was bright and beautiful. When I went yesterday, everything had died. It was evident that it hadn’t rained…leaving everything to die. It made me realize how quickly we can let things, like relationships, suffer or flourish. Think of this. Each time you take their call, you're letting air in. Each time they disrespect you, hurt you and disregard your feelings- you vow you're done. You announce that you're moving on, but months're in the same mess. What does it take to be done? I think there's honestly no magic answer other than having no choice. I've been there. Taken someone back over and over and over again. I always wonder why no one around me told me not to. Seriously- no one told me that it was dead. I always wonder if they knew or that they, too, had hope that a miracle would happen. In my book, I talk about how I finally walked away. It wasn't by choice completely. After allowing someone so many chances, over and over again, I didn't realize I was basically aiding them to think a little less of me each time. You see, the more chances you give someone who clearly doesn't give a shit about your feelings, the less they respect you. They may say they care, but what have their actions shown you? Actions speak, babe. Years later, I'm so grateful for all that has occurred to help me know it was dead. You see, walking away isn't something that's supposed to be easy when you don't want to walk away. Get that out of your head. Walking away, having self-control and the will power to say no more is a choice only you can make to trusting that something down the line will be better for you. It is VERY difficult to do. It's not supposed to feel good or right and you're supposed to want to try more, but when something is dead, you're just choosing not to see reality. That my friend, is suffocating yourself. I promise that what is on the other side of the mountain is so much greater than anything you’re leaving behind in the dust.

City of ANGELS

Posted on May 22, 2017 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (0)

"There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty." When you know your worth, ladies, no girl will ever be competition to you. If your guy is dumb enough to leave, let him go. Never let someone's desire or lack thereof define how you value yourself. Be your own greatest fan and everything will follow and above all, don't forget to fall in love with yourself first. You are a once in a lifetime woman; a goddess. Never forget it. #knowyourworth #loveyourself #neversettle #LA

Maybe you should go and love yourself.

Posted on May 18, 2017 at 11:40 AM Comments comments (0)

Every now and then, I buy myself flowers. I don't think that women give enough back to themselves. They're always sacrificing, giving, and working their butts off. They also wait. Wait for someone to come along and see their worth. It's important to remind yourself that, "You deserve it." Never forget what you bring to the table and I don't mean looks, finances or material things. I mean deep down to your roots. Who are you? Know her. Be her. A wise woman named Anais Nin once said, "How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself?" ������ There are a lot of flowers to pick from in this world, so be sure you know the beauty of what you offer. You don't just pick the prettiest flower and find happiness. The happiness comes from planting a seed, nurturing it and watching it blossom into the extraordinary flower it is. Don't settle when you're worthy of the garden. Don't wait for someone to bring you the life you deserve- build it. Build a solid foundation, nurture it everyday, and speak kindly to yourself. When you do good things for yourself, like properly healing, you will see that in time, you've become someone who's strong on their own.

Above all, fight for the woman you're becoming.

Why Worry?

Posted on May 16, 2017 at 1:10 PM Comments comments (0)

"Why worry? What is meant for you wis always meant to find you."

Last night I got an email from a sweet follower. She's a young lady who wanted some guidance on life. She felt that everyone around her was in a relationship and felt lost that maybe something was wrong with her. I asked what she does on her free time and she told me she's rally busy with school. I told her to keep doing what she's doing and keep working on her goals and dreams. Boys come and go, but your career, dreams and goals only go as far as you pursue them. Trust the timing of your life and know that you'll never miss the things destined to be within your reach. #trustthejourney #faith #life

Marry the person...

Posted on May 8, 2017 at 11:35 AM Comments comments (0)

Marry the person who brings out the best in you, makes you a better person and encourages you to live life positively, happily and helps you grow. #empathy #thisislove #loveis #gala #humansofnewyork #ryanreynolds

Love notes

Posted on May 8, 2017 at 11:35 AM Comments comments (0)
"What if everything you're going
through right now is preparing you
for a dream
bigger than you can imagine.."


Posted on May 8, 2017 at 11:35 AM Comments comments (0)

"I have what I have and I am happy. I've lost what I've lost and I am still happy." -outlook

Me in a nutshell. Always grateful and optimistic of what's been handed to me. Trusting of what will come to me and have faith that whatever is meant for me, will never lose me. Trusting the process can seem scary when you cannot see the future. This is why you have to believe in something greater than you to trust that it will not leave you astray. I hope that you go into this weekend, month, year, lifetime with faith that your journey was destined for you and that no matter what happens, good or bad, is not to you but for you. Have faith in fate. 


Posted on April 19, 2017 at 7:20 PM Comments comments (0)

Last night, a guy asked me if I'm the jealous type. I simply responded: "No." Through lessons, I've found that you can be with someone who makes you feel insecure which is the result of jealousy. Without a doubt, confidence is something found within and it's something that shouldn't be validated from others, but sometimes- those around you can be the cause of low self-esteem. Those kind of people are toxic and those type of people don't deserve your love. You have to let go of the ones that hold you back and attract only the ones who embrace your talents, beauty and above all, strengths. After all, life is too short to feel anything but happy. So, fall in love with yourself first because everything else after that is just extra. And remember, "The women who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet."

Crack in the window.

Posted on April 18, 2017 at 3:45 PM Comments comments (0)

"Let someone love you just the way you are-- as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you thnk you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window and illuminating a dark room...."

"...There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in."

Before you let a man sweep you off your feet...

Posted on April 17, 2017 at 10:55 AM Comments comments (0)

Before you let a man sweep you off your feet

be sure he is prepared to catch you when you fall.

You might be too much woman for him.

You might be too independent.

Too smart. Too much of a catch.

He may not be ready, for the weight of how beautiful you are.

How gorgeous you are.

How strong you are.

He may not be ready yet.

You, have to be prepared...

to be yourself regardless of if he can carry you or not.

So it's important for you to know, his past.

His attributes. His strengths.

If he's prepared to handle how beautiful you are.

How gorgeous... How so awesome you are.

So, I'm here to tell you...

That it's super important for you to take your time.

Don't just listen to sweet nothings.

Don't just listen to words, watch actions.

Because you're too fragile to be dropped.

Your heart is way too valuable to be mishandled.

and your brain don't need a bruise.

So before you let a man, sweep you off your feet...

Be sure he is strong enough.

Secure enough in himself .

Be sure he has the proper amount of self-esteem... self-confidence

to handle who God created you to be.


Credit: Ace Metapor