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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life...it goes on."- Robert Frost

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Bug.

Posted on February 19, 2016 at 12:30 AM Comments comments (0)

An excerpt from my book, This is what it feels like:

One of the hardest parts of a breakup is filling voids. It’s been said that a healthy way to fill the void is through loving yourself, finding yourself, and fulfilling happiness in ways where you are alone. Sadly, it's easier to fill the pain with substance, rebounds, or distractions. Ultimately, distractions die out- partying gets old, drinking is expensive, and rebounding is only hurtful to you. Filling a void only brings temporary happiness. Trying to find a cure for loneliness is the same feeling of walking into the store when you’re sick.

There are so many options that are sure to ease the symptoms, but nothing really takes away the cold. The cough syrups, cough drops, and nasal drip medication make that clear on the label. It’s not the same when you’re lonely though. Friends insist that you go out so that you can forget about the misery, but you don’t. You end up missing them even more. I guess that’s why the only real cure to a cold is to let it pass on its own time. You can aid the symptoms all you want, but the virus has to pass so that you feel better.

And when it does, “You likely got the bug out.”

Battle Wounds.

Posted on March 13, 2015 at 1:55 PM Comments comments (0)

Have you read my book? I talk about Battle Wounds and the journey of healing and how it's not pretty. How you go through moments of sincere belief you're getting over it then feel your heart has shattered all over again. Healing is not something you just temporarily fix with a bandaid to stop the bleeding or hold it down so it doesn't bleed through. My God, if I did that- I would have never grown from the pain. I let that shit bleed out of me all the time. I cried, wrote, then cried some more- but I also became stronger.

 There'll always be a battle wound on my heart, but it's a scar that reminds me of where I've been not where i'm going. If there is someone you know who is healing, don't rush their process or let them skip steps. These growing pains will get them back on their feet again.

Journey of 2014

Posted on January 2, 2015 at 1:20 PM Comments comments (0)

I learned a lot this year. I learned that everyone has their own grieving time. I learned that you’re not wrong for caring and having feelings. I learned that apologizing for how you feel is like apologizing for being real. I learned that having a friend with benefits is fun, but it’s difficult to separate sex from emotion. I learned that no matter how much your ex wants to have breakup sex, it still means it’s broken. I’ve learned that I don’t owe anyone anything. I don’t need an explanation behind, “no.” I have learned that you can’t seek validation in others. I learned that people will act out to get your attention and it is up to you if you listen. I learned that no one can come save you. You have to be your own hero. I learned that I’m a warrior and I’ve surpassed my own expectations of myself. I’ve learned that even though this is what it feels like, it won’t feel like this forever. Thanks for the lessons, 2014.“ What you’ve got to do now is remember every other color besides his eyes and paint the sky with them again…”

Time.

Posted on October 14, 2014 at 5:00 PM Comments comments (0)

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This is what it feels like.

Posted on August 17, 2014 at 11:05 AM Comments comments (0)

 In a few weeks, it will be the year anniversary of my breakup. This year has had many ups and downs of growth, healing, and change. My original plan was to publish this book on the exact day of, but I finished sooner than I imagined and I’m proud to share with you all my book- This is what it feels like.

 My hopes are that through this book and my story, you will find that you are not only alone, but will find the strength to continue as I have. Thank you all for the support.

If you would like to purchase the book for yourself or for a friend currently dealing with a breakup, please click on the book link above.

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You were created for a purpose and this just happens to be a part of your story. I ask that you look yourself in the mirror today and begin to love yourself. Decide to make more of your life than this and do something that the world will remember. Let your pain birth your purpose. Let your mess become your message. Let this be a stepping stone and not a stumbling block. Change the way you see yourself and it will change the way you see the world and the way the world sees you. There are some young girls who only you will be able to reach. You’ll be able to reach them because you lived through this and now is the time to start walking in the purpose and living out your calling. This is not your calling; this is a distraction from your calling. Refuse to lose and go on and do great things!” –Tony A. Gaskins Jr

This book is dedicated to those young girls.

The ones who only I will be able to reach and I’m here to tell you, you’re going to be ok.

With love,

Shima Razipour