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Posted on December 26, 2015 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

Growing Pains

I can't believe the year is coming close to an end. I typically like to do my reflection of the year on these last few days and am fortunate to have the time. This year, like the last few has been challenging, but in a fabulous way. In result, I am wiser, stronger and better than I was. In short, I would say the greatest thing I am taking from 2015 is the ability to say I’m not afraid of hurting others anymore. This sounds awful, but hear me out. In the past, I often found that I would compensate my own feelings for the sake of others. I did this by doing things so they wouldn’t be uncomfortable, realizing that this cost me my own sanity. You cannot live your life for others- you HAVE to put you first. You will lose a lot of people along the way, you will hurt some and you will have to change. When I found a better business opportunity for myself, I took it by the horn without fearing of hurting my boss. When I found that certain people were bringing toxicity into my life, I removed myself from the situation. The old me wouldn’t have done this. She’d feel guilty. That’s not fair to you. YOU deserve anything you want in your life and the only way to have it is to go out and get it. I hope if you haven’t already found it, that you find what it is you need and you go and get it.

Happy Holidays, love. Here’s to a better you because if you’re not learning, you’re not growing.

Most Beautiful One.

Posted on June 17, 2015 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (0)

Over and Over Again.

Posted on April 14, 2015 at 2:40 AM Comments comments (0)

Yesterday, I was saddened to hear that a dear member of our family passed away. This lady was one of the few people who welcomed my father and uncle when they moved to the U.S. They've always told me sweet stories of how she reminded them of their mother. Each time I saw her, there was something undeniably noticeable which was that her husband was smittened with her. One of my favorite memories is catching him taking a selfie with her and in Farsi saying, "This is going to be a keeper for the books." After years of having children, grandchildren, marriages, sickness, and health, their love shined through anyone who came across them. To me, life is not so much about the years you've lived as it is about the legacy you leave behind. As said before, "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel..." Thank you for teaching us that love is eternal and lives on even after we are gone. Life is short. Take selfies with your loved ones.

 Make each moment count and live in love over and over again

Emotions with Me.

Posted on April 6, 2015 at 3:10 PM Comments comments (0)


In a recent interview, Khloe Kardashian admitted to forever loving Lamar. I admired her so much more after hearing her say, “…and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.” I admire her because she isn’t afraid to admit something so many people want her to deny- the raw, aching truth. It still hurts. There is no endpoint for healing. Some of us never heal, we just cope differently. Some of us don’t forget, we just don’t remember as often. Some of us don’t miss them, but miss the memories. There is no right or wrong way to grief, but there is one right way to heal and that is to be honest with yourself. I notice that so often after a breakup, we are afraid to miss, want, or desire those no longer with us- especially if they’ve hurt us. The truth is, we are OWN biggest critics. Our fear of being judged for our emotions tend to cause us to ignore them and deny them, resulting in greater anxiety down the line. I know it’s easier said than done sometimes, but you have to learn to stop faking it until you make it. Know your truth and don’t deny it. Know it hurts and be ok with it. Be ok with the fact that you’re still healing and every now and then, you miss them. Never apologize for what you feel. It’s like saying sorry for being real. It’s ok not to be ok. Life moves on, but at your own pace.

Grieving

Posted on March 2, 2015 at 6:25 PM Comments comments (0)

Grieving takes time and it's never smooth sailing. Grieving does not have a time frame and does not have an expiration date. There is no sudden moment that it's over or that you're done. The truth is you may never stop grieving because that's the price you pay when you love with your heart. The reality of grieving is tiresome because it hits you when you least expect it- like passing by something that had no significance of the person, yet missing them or the holidays.




Those tend to hurt most, but especially the random memories that pop in your mind and bring you back to a place and time. Missing someone who's gone hurts whether they're gone by choice or without- you miss them, who they were, the memories, the could have beens. It's ok to let those feelings come and let them move in and out from you so that you can feel the natural durations of grief. Because in the end, no matter how shitty things are or feel or seem, you know it'll go by - because it always does. Don't get lost in the pain. It'll come back, but the pain lessens each time. Promise.

Smooth Sailing.

Posted on February 27, 2015 at 4:55 PM Comments comments (0)

Grieving takes time and it's never smooth sailing. Grieving does not have a time frame and does not have an expiration date. There is no sudden moment that it's over or that you're done. The truth is you may never stop grieving because that's the price you pay when you love with your heart. The reality of grieving is tiresome because it hits you when you least expect it- like passing by something that had no significance of the person, yet missing them or the holidays. Those tend to hurt most, but especially the random memories that pop in your mind and bring you back to a place and time. Missing someone who's gone hurts whether they're gone by choice or without- you miss them, who they were, the memories, the could have beens. It's ok to let those feelings come and let them move in and out from you so that you can feel the natural durations of grief. Because in the end, no matter how shitty things are or feel or seem, you know it'll go by - because it always does. Don't get lost in the pain. It'll come back, but the pain lessens each time. Promise.

Who to Thank

Posted on December 9, 2014 at 1:00 PM Comments comments (0)

Not sure if I agree with this so much. I think true foregivneess has nothing to do with thanking your experience. When you have cancer, you don't thank the cancer. You thank the strength you had when you overcame it. You thank the people who were there, but never cancer. Cancer is the devil- and sometimes so is the past, if it didn't make you better. Sometimes the thing that makes you better is YOU. The choice you made to better yourself- to not stay bitter, to grow, and overcome the pain. The real hero is you. You made the choice to let your past make you better, not bitter. It was all you, darling. As for who to thank, thank your heart. It's forgiving. It's pure. Don't change.

Drowning.

Posted on October 30, 2014 at 5:15 PM Comments comments (0)


One of the most difficult things to do is stay positive when life feels like it's drowning you- over and over again. The current feels like it's never going to end. Some things never make sense and I've learned to be ok with that- and yes, just ok.
You don't have to accept things you don't like. No one is forcing you to.

I'm ok with knowing my last relationship didn't last, even though I didn't want to accept the truth- I've become ok with it. The more you try to make something shitty better sometimes the worst it feels, so don't.

Just take it for what it is and get through it when you can. Losing someone you love is not fun. Whether it's a girlfriend or your dad, grieving someone is never easy. You grieve memories, who they were, what they meant, and even that they can never be replaced.
That's ok.
Just have faith in your heart that no matter what or who you've lost, you're going to be ok.
Head up, love.

Giddy All Over Again.

Posted on October 8, 2014 at 1:40 PM Comments comments (0)

Not exactly there, but... Immediately after my breakup, I wondered how I would ever, if I could ever feel as deeply as I did for someone again. My ex was not only my first boyfriend, but he was my first kiss, love, and best friend.

Like many people after a breakup, I felt like I lost- a lot. It took some time for me to find the good in goodbye. I found it sometime ago, but I can’t really recall a moment in time or feeling that made me realize it.

My best friend Triana would always tell me, “I promise you, Shima. There will come this day when it feels good not having to tell someone where you’re at and to think at that very moment, he has no clue where you are.”

Well, that happened eventually- with time. But, the best feeling has recently been happening. I’ve found myself feeling giddy like a little school girl with a mad crush.

I have felt it for random guys that I’ve come across, like today. I found out he had a wife and child, so I just carried on, but to know I can feel that way- giddy and blushing- well, that’s just everything to me.

Right now.

Take it one day at a time, love, and you’ll see it too.

Protect Your Heart.

Posted on October 6, 2014 at 8:15 PM Comments comments (0)


I hate scary movies. I never watch them, but this weekend, I did. I watched it with my best friends in the backyard, so it made the experience a little better. What I noticed from the movie was that almost all the characters felt something- whether in their mind or not, something made them uncomfortable. It got me thinking- we all have that inner voice. I wrote about that in my book, This is what it feels like- intuition. It helps you realize when something isn't right. But I also realized that we can build the worst horror stories in our minds too. We can make believe things we have yet to experience. In the movie, Conjuring, an evil presence is trying to make a character bad- to kill her own offspring. She is told to ignore the voice- to listen to her own heart. To see the good. It's so challenging, but she overcomes the negativity.

I learned that it's ok to start ignoring people who threaten your joy. Literally, ignore them. Say nothing. Don't invite any parts of them into your space. After all, you have to be your own hero, darling.