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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life...it goes on."- Robert Frost

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No longer mad.

Posted on February 6, 2018 at 4:20 PM Comments comments (0)

"It eventually gets better, without any sort of explanation; one day you realize that you're no longer upset. You're no longer mad, hurt, or bothered by the things that took so much of your energy and thoughts. You will find yourself in a peaceful place and enjoy that feeling." 


Time is a powerful healer. Trust the timing of your life. Trust that life is on your side. Trust that things happen for a reason. Trust in the journey. Trust in your destiny. Trust that your heart will always get you through. You’re stronger than you know, wiser than you know, and worth more than you’ll ever feel. Keep rising above everything that feels heavy. Your time here on earth isn’t promised, but you are admired, needed, and loved more than you know. Keep your head up, beautiful. You’re going to get through this. Promise.

People Change.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 3:25 PM Comments comments (0)

PEOPLE LOOK SO DIFFERENT ONCE YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THEM ANYMORE.

Throughout life, you’ll meet people who will make you feel different than others. Some will be amazing and others, not so much. The people we tend to remember the most are the ones who’ve made us feel both... crazy good & crazy bad. These people are sometimes unforgettable and quite frankly, I think that’s okay. It’s ok to remember how quickly feelings can change and how quickly people’s feelings for us can change too. It’s important so that you remember that the only thing consistent in life is your love for yourself and if that is not nourished and cared for, you’ll be left alone if someone’s feelings for you slip like quicksand. My suggestion? Don’t forget these people who’ve made you feel amazing then shitty. Remember them. For YOU. Remember what they’ve done without letting it weigh you down. Remember, that you will truly forget what they’ve said and maybe what they’ve done, but you’ll never forget how they made you feel. Maybe it’ll also shape how you treat others. In the end, that’s all we’re remembered for, anyway....how we made others feel.

No regrets.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

NEVER REGRET BEING A GOOD WOMAN TO THE WRONG MAN...

HIS LOSS.

Keep being a great woman...for yourself. Don’t let hurt, pain, or anger make you bitter. Don’t allow it to take ahold of the good that’s within you. When you do, you give power to someone no longer in your life to control, dictate, and influence your actions. Unfortunately, the only one who ends up losing is YOU. Losing potential opportunities because you’re unable to consider that someone may be good to you. Unable to see that not all people are the same. Take the time to heal your heart so that you can properly allow love back in when ready.

Love yourself MORE.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

I’ve seen so many amazing, deserving, loving, and valuable men AND women settle for less than they deserve. I think we all do it-stick around, hoping people will change. I get it; trust me. I get it because I was there before- that push/pull relationship. God, it is so toxic. It consumes you. It drains you. It causes you to forget YOU! Once you learn to love yourself and value your own time, solitude, beauty, and accept it for what it is, you’ll realize how consuming, annoying, and far from cute loving the wrong kind of people is. Remember, it drains you. After learning who I am and what I want, nothing is sexier than hearing from your spouse, “Do you.” When they say it in a positive, supportive, non-passive way...you know they not only want you to live your best life and to reach your worth, but they’ll be there to support you rather than weigh you down. Pick and choose wisely. Not everyone is worth your energy.

Good for you.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

IT TAKES TIME TO LEARN HOW TO BE ATTRACTED TO WHAT'S GOOD FOR US.


One of the most awakening lessons you’ll learn in life is what love really looks and feels like. For a long time, I thought love was about how someone makes you feel. I’ve learned through growth and age that love is many things, but for me...the most eye-opening lesson has been realizing that love is about giving without expectation of receiving. True love, never counts sacrifices, gifts given, and time spent with others. The true love that has lasted is the one that’s more focused on giving than receiving. It’s a love that’s genuine, from the heart, and creates a space that doesn’t influence jealousy, hate, or disappointment.

Do whatever you want... just don't hurt people.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:05 AM Comments comments (0)

I’ve always said people are going to do whatever they want, regardless of their circumstances. You can be the most amazing person in the world, whether as a spouse, employee, or even a family member. Labels unfortunately don’t always mean the same thing to others and also don’t stop people from disrespecting you. Because of this, I’ve learned that going into anything new will be scary and you can’t avoid pain as it’s inevitable. You can only wish and hope that people have the same heart as you. In life, you’ve got to take chances and that sometimes means putting your heart on the line. For what it’s worth, everything in life whether gone good or bad, is a lesson.

I know I deserve Better.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:05 AM Comments comments (0)

One of the most heartbreaking things I see on a daily basis is women who’ve forgotten what they bring to the table. In short, their worth. Why does this happen? Well, if I had to guess it’s because when a breakup occurs, a natural thought that we immediately believe is that it was our fault. We hurt and to make sense of it, we tend to blame ourselves because it’s easier than thinking rationally as to why it didn’t work. I spent a looooong time reading, studying, and practicing a lot of the relationship “techniques” books teach you on having a successful relationship. Very few teach you the simple key that I had to learn on my own time. It sounds simple and I know many of you can argue that you do in fact “love yourself,” but I beg to differ. Loving yourself is an art that is so fucking important to every aspect of having a rich life. No person, object, career, sport, place, or high can replace the importance of loving yourself without condition. By that, I mean that even when you are not your best, when your ugly side shows...YOU still love yourself and accept your flaws. This, my dear, is what love is all about. Loving someone unconditionally, without expectation or default when tension arrives. I ask you to focus today on loving yourself. If you’re lost, or don’t know where to begin, I’m only an email away.

Follow your dreams

Posted on January 23, 2018 at 10:45 PM Comments comments (0)


When I published this book of my first 100 blogs ever written on Life Moves On, it felt so rewarding. I’ve always known I was born to be a writer, first and foremost. My goals through writing have always been to help others find their purpose, inspire them when they feel weak, to offer words of wisdom, find strength within, and most of all, to reassure people they are never alone.

 

My blog has connected me with SO many people around the world. From China to Kenya, I never would have imagined how many people seek to be heard. That’s all we need sometimes in life...to know someone, anyone cares. I’m proud to say after finishing this book, I published two others. If you read or have read my writing, you’d know two things about me. 1.) I wear my heart on my sleeve and 2.) I try to find the lesson/purpose behind everything.

 

This optimism is what is my driving force everyday. I’m so grateful that I am able to still practice my writing daily and it continues to help me follow my greatest passion in life, which is to help others. Even in my real estate business, I help people with a chapter of their lives. I’ve just been offered a deal to write another book and I am excited that it’ll be on a topic very close to my heart.

 

I am sharing this not to brag or show off, but to hopefully remind you that YOU are worthy of whatever lifestyle, dreams, and goals you have for yourself. The first step is to just show up. The second, is to remain humble and kind. Never give up on you because I promise there will be a lot of people hoping you did. So, thank you to those who’ve supported my writing over the years- it has not gone unnoticed. Thank you for allowing me to be 100% raw and vulnerable with you.

 

Cheaters Cheat.

Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Cheating is a choice not a mistake."

Stop sugarcoating a fuck up as a weakness. Stop justifying why someone did what they did. Accept that the person did something low, inconsiderate, and hurtful. Yes, they may have been weak, to fall for temptation...but you don’t have to be weak back. Know you’re worth having the kind of relationship that doesn’t hurt. You’re worth not having to stress where or who someone may be with. You are worth feeling secure in your relationships.

CrownED.

Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Fix her crown without letting the

world know it was crooked."


Gentlemen, I get a few emails from you questioning why the ladies you’re pursuing are standoffish, show no interest, etc. 9/10 Times, I’ve asked them when their previous relationship ended. Often, you don’t know. When pursuing a woman, it is important to know things that have shaped her. Not to “punish” her, rather to have a greater insight to know if she’s ready for commitment or what she’s looking for. Also, it allows you to know what parts of her need healing. Maybe it’s not her heart. Maybe it’s her thought process. For a short period, before I decided enough is enough, I had a negative outlook on men. All men. I didn’t care how good they treated me or that they’d send me flowers at work, I ignored all of them. Why? Because my head wasn’t in the game. The prince of Egypt could have tried to court me and I would have ignored him. A woman who’s been hurt is not a bitch. She’s guarded. Rather than trying to win her over with things she’s seen before, gifts and flowers, sit her down. Don’t butter up with words that have lost value. Just simply, get to know her. Find common interest, hobbies, and remind her of the good. With time, if she’s meant for you, she’ll always remember you as the guy who cared more about her heart than her ass. Women talk. We tell our friends about these things and good friends, won’t let good guys pass our friends. We tell them who’s worth giving a shot and who isn’t. So, be kind to her heart. It’s been broken. Be yourself and allow quality time, memories, and good conversation to give her that confidence she needs to try again.