|Posted on October 20, 2017 at 6:05 PM||comments (0)|
DON'T LET THEM MAKE YOU FEEL BAD FOR FEELING A WAY ABOUT SOME FUCKED UP SHIT THEY DID.
I’ve learned that it’s important to forgive people who’ve wronged you. Forgiveness is something you do for you. It’s something that opens space in your heart to heal. It’s something that helps eliminate carrying baggage with you. Forgiving isn’t something you do for others. It’s for you. To get to it, though, it takes time. It needs to be done on your own time...in whatever way you feel good in. For me, forgiving didn’t come easy. It took a lot of reading, writing, hikes, therapy sessions, music, and time with nature to mend the parts of me that were broken. It took lots of reading to understand why people do things. I think this is when I began to forgive, truthfully. It was never because I got a “sorry.” It was never because I had an aha moment. It was never because of them. It was because I was tired of letting someone who no longer was in my life dictate my choices, feelings, and happiness. That’s forgiveness, love. It’s forgiving yourself, too. No one is perfect and your journey was especially designed to bring you from one page of your book to another. Just do me a favor and be ok with living life on your own terms. Go against what’s expected of you. Don’t give in to bullshit people and their bullshit stories of how you should feel, be or should have handled anything. You did what was right at the time and what was right for you. That’s all that matters anyway.
|Posted on September 9, 2017 at 2:05 AM||comments (0)|
I talk to a lot of different kind of women everyday.
Over the years, I've learned the importance of being compassionate for people and where they are in their journey. I try not to get upset when I'm looking at a beautiful woman who's broken. I have to remember that maybe she hasn't gotten to the page in her book where she realizes what she has to offer someone and hasn't gotten to the plot of the story where her strength is regained. I sympathize with these girls...because I was once her. The women I'm talking about are not beautiful because of their beautiful skin, hair, eyes, or smile. No, they're beautiful because of their hearts. I think, if they're capable of loving someone so unworthy of their hearts....can you imagine what loving the right person will do to them? How differently they'll shine, how much value they'll bring to those around them, and how happy they feel. So happy that from the inside out, they glow. A lot of times, these women are simply a museum of art in a room full of losers who have their eyes shut...simply incapable of capturing their uniqueness and beauty. The truth is, I'm not worried about these kind of women. No, I never am. Because I know that a time will come where she'll remember who she is and the game will change. She's just got to keep looking until she finds what's within. ✨ #loveyourself @leeniephotography #optoutside
|Posted on September 9, 2017 at 2:00 AM||comments (0)|
A piece from my book, This is what it feels like.
"The truth of the matter is breakups are a shock to our consciousness because for so long we were unified with another soul and souls recognize each other by vibes. Losing another soul is like losing a sensation in ourselves. It's like learning to walk again. It's new. It's strange. It's change. Don't be afraid of the unfamiliar, love. No matter how much it hurts- let it hurt. No matter how much it changes you- let it change you. Don't resist what needs to occur to take you where you've always needed to be. That's the beauty of the journey. No matter how much you want to think you're in control of it, your density has been predetermined. So, let go and just enjoy it for what it is- a stepping stone to who you'll become."
|Posted on September 2, 2017 at 11:30 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted on September 2, 2017 at 11:30 PM||comments (0)|
One of the most questions I'm asked daily on my blog is, "How long does it take to stop hurting?" Healing takes time. It takes longer for some than others, but it doesn't mean a person is weak because they feel. Think of pain, healing, growing, changing, overcoming, and enduring like a sunset. There's all kinds of rays of light that go into a sunset, but it happens so fast that we can't remember the last seconds. When I reminisce on healing, it's very black and white. I remember the dark then the light. You don't see the bad days in photographs, but they're the days that get you from one happy sunset to the other. I know it sucks right now, but your dark rays are preparing for something greater. A light you can't see and maybe came always believe in. These wounds will one day give you strength. You've just got to believe me. I'm not afraid of going to battle anymore. I'm more afraid of becoming numb.. not caring, not feeling. I feel that way to some and it's frightening. To not care at all, after caring for so long. Give me battle wounds...remind me that I can feel and that I always make it out alive.
|Posted on August 30, 2017 at 6:05 PM||comments (0)|
Tonight my friend @leeniephotography asked to shoot some portrait shots of me. (this is just a sneak peek shot with her iPhone) What I like most about her style of photography is that she captures her subject in their most natural state. She talks, laughs, and makes you feel completely comfortable & slightly vulnerable. I can't wait to get more of the photos back so I can share with you the story we captured. I've been receiving a lot of messages lately asking to share more pictures of the "girl behind the writing." I've been sharing my writing publicly on my website since I was 16 and many of you have also inspired my writing. Each year I've faced obstacles, trials, and growth. Despite the tough times, I'm grateful that you allow me to share my story...my journey. No one deserves to feel alone and like my good friend Michelle has taught me, sometimes we just need to look out at the ocean and remember how small our problems are in comparison to the world out there. I hope you always keep your eyes on the light.
|Posted on August 29, 2017 at 6:05 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted on August 7, 2017 at 3:25 PM||comments (0)|
Find light at the end of the tunnel. ✨ My hope for you is that you never feel alone and when your struggles feel heavy on your shoulders, you know someone out there believes in you. Don't let your current feelings, situation, circumstance, or worries break you. Let them be the driving force that gets you from point A to B. Crawl if you must, but please don't ever give up on your greater goals because they feel impossible now. Sometimes that means changing who we thought our greater goals were going to be with. Sometimes it means bravely moving forward without an idea of what's to come. I used to fear the unknown, what hadn't happened yet...the future. It took good things unexpectedly happening for me to realize that the universe wants good for us. The universe wants us to reach happiness, our goals, our destiny. However, to reach it, you must find gratitude amongst the present..and that means being grateful for things even when they feel terrible. If you're barely able to drag your feet today and the weight feels like it's on your shoulders, I am here. Message me. You're going to be ok.
|Posted on August 7, 2017 at 3:20 PM||comments (0)|
I remember speaking with a friend several years ago who was dealing with a breakup. She told me, “I gave him my fries when he finished his and was still hungry.” She couldn’t understand for the life of her how someone she cared so deeply for could be so careless with her heart. Despite how much he’d hurt her, she still cared for his wellbeing and happiness. I told her that sometimes no matter the neglect, sadness, and hurt some cause us- some of us will always care. It’s just who we are and what makes us unique. Why would you ever want to change that about you? Your heart, it's rare. It's beautiful. Not everyone is capable of having those kind of feelings...so own them. Be proud of them. Those people, the ones who wear their hearts on their sleeves are the ones I cherish. Because even though they don’t have to, they CARE to wish you well. The truth is, sometimes you have to meet those kind of people so that when you meet the ones with a heart of gold you can differentiate the two. I guess that’s what life is all about- taking chances and having faith in something greater. If there’s anything I have learned in my life that I feel has value for every person is to know what you bring to the table. Know what you can offer someone. Know these things so you never lose yourself to someone who treats you like you’re ordinary. You’re exquisite. Feel it. Believe it. Know it. And no matter what, never, ever lose yourself to someone who doesn't see it. Life is way too short to leave the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket...so leave it to fries to make you happy. #sundays
|Posted on August 4, 2017 at 6:15 PM||comments (0)|
’ve always loved writing and knew it was something I’d want to do forever…so I majored in Journalism. ✏️ Upon graduating, I interned at a prestigious real estate magazine helping local top agents brand their business, write on behalf of them, and manage their social media sites. Soon after, I was offered a full-time position but kindly declined. I knew I wanted to help people, but didn’t see it possible sitting behind a desk all day. Ironically, my cousin’s friend was looking for someone to work as the Director of First Impressions at, Keller Williams Palos Verdes.
I decided to apply and got the job the same day. During this time, I worked closely as the office Team Leader’s assistant and would listen in when agents would negotiate deals. I realized that I could fulfill my desire to help people, write, and spend more time with Bubba in this career.
It's a lot of work and sometimes I feel like I am running in every direction at once, but I took a chance and I am proud of who I've become. I genuinely believe that we cannot compare our journey with others. What’s for you will always be yours and what isn’t, may never be. Eventually, things come full circle and you realize why smaller things had to happen for greater things to occur. So, work hard and don’t be afraid to take chances. If you don’t build your own dreams, someone else will hire you to build theirs. This morning, I helped a stranger in London find a solution to her relationship problems and this is all because I am still able to write on my personal blog, Life Moves On.
I have so many more goals I want to accomplish and that’s what makes it so fun. So, set goals and make them big enough that you can't achieve it until you grow into the person who can. #FBF #trusttheprocess
: Jessica Lynn