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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life...it goes on."- Robert Frost

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Jealousy?

Posted on April 19, 2017 at 7:20 PM Comments comments (0)

Last night, a guy asked me if I'm the jealous type. I simply responded: "No." Through lessons, I've found that you can be with someone who makes you feel insecure which is the result of jealousy. Without a doubt, confidence is something found within and it's something that shouldn't be validated from others, but sometimes- those around you can be the cause of low self-esteem. Those kind of people are toxic and those type of people don't deserve your love. You have to let go of the ones that hold you back and attract only the ones who embrace your talents, beauty and above all, strengths. After all, life is too short to feel anything but happy. So, fall in love with yourself first because everything else after that is just extra. And remember, "The women who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet."

Conscious Energy

Posted on April 17, 2017 at 10:50 AM Comments comments (0)

Hold on to every genuine person you find.

This generation has people driven by ego, money and status.

As a result, good souls are ruined daily.

Keep your head dup and be conscious of the energy you give out and connect with.


"When you find someone who sparks that fire in you, who ignites your passions, shares your dreams, who makes you the best version of yourself, hold onto them and don't let go. Fight for them, make them smile and love them so fiercely they will question whether they have ever been loved before."

Pride vs. love

Posted on February 22, 2017 at 12:55 PM Comments comments (0)

"Love doesn't mean you don't fight. It means that when the fighting stops, the love is still there."

People may disagree, but I think there's different forms of love. I don't think a love for a child is equal as to loving a spouse. Personally, I feel they are different, thus making the statement in my eyes false. I think a love for a child is far more sacrificial and is done despite how many arguments is had. I think in a spouse, there needs to be a greater level of purpose behind arguments and far greater level of respect. It takes two to do make love as it does to make up. It takes two to want it enough to put aside pride. Choose wisely.

Stand Tall.

Posted on February 22, 2017 at 12:50 PM Comments comments (0)

I recently received an email from a follower wondering/asking when to walk away from what feels like a dead relationship. This question is always challenging to answer, because I think we ultimately are the only ones who know when we're ready. Then I remember to ask myself, are we ever ready? There are some things you can prepare for in life, then there are other things that are just kind of thrown in your path and you can't just ignore them. They are roadblocks and effect the journey. I've learned that this is okay. It's ok to hit these roadblocks; almost necessary. I think what's difficult to grasp is that the things that are holding us from moving forward are the same people who once helped us feel free, happy and unstoppable. Yet, they're now in our way. It's even weirder how the person that once allowed you to drop your guard is the same person who gives you 100 other reasons to put it back up. You're going to hit roadblocks in life, but it should never be from someone on your team. Sweetheart, know your worth. Know what you bring to the table and remember what kind of person you said you'd never settle for. Be brave, be unstoppable and don't be afraid of taking the journey alone. A woman standing alone is not waiting for you to save her. Walk alone if you must, but never settle for less than you deserve because baby, you're worth it. #loveyourself #neversettle #mediocre #journey

Light at the end of the tunnel coming through

Posted on January 10, 2017 at 5:05 PM Comments comments (0)

In life, we aren't always given the answer, reasoning or evidence to what will eventually make sense. One of the greatest challenges I've overcome in the past few years is learning to trust what happens is not against me and nothing is happening TO me. Everything that occurs in my life or around me is destined to help me become a better, greater me. Nothing nor no one can ever take away my ability to smile or be happy. This sort of decision is only one you can make within yourself when you decide that your life is your own and who comes in and out of it, were never meant to be with you. Learn to accept that people come and go, by choice or not. Learn that events will come and some never again. Learn to be still within the moments of good and bad, because one day you'll want to look back on them to see that things were better or worse. Growth is realizing you've overcome and will overcome whatever is handed your way. You can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but having the faith within to know that it will eventually be found is what kept me going for many years. When it is finally found, made clear or even realized...that full-circle moment will be worth all the confusion. Keep your head up, darling. You're worth it. #lightattheendofthetunnel

Feel(ings)

Posted on October 24, 2016 at 11:55 AM Comments comments (0)


"Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel..."

I genuinely believe we are often aware of the choices we're making and the consequences we will face before we've faced them. The difference is that we're keen on denying the truth as much as possible, that way we don't disappoint ourselves. You know when people say, "I told you so." It's tedious, right? Well, it's a little more frustrating when you hear it in your own head. So, to ignore it, we turn off the light bulb that goes off each time we feel intuition. We all have it, feel it and are aware of its purpose. Yet, too often, we blind ourselves to what we don't want to see so that we can focus on what we want to perceive the situation to be. In the end, we are only fooling ourselves. Whether it's rebounding after a breakup, lying about a heartbreak or not admitting to making a mistake- our conscious minds will alter our thoughts far sooner than any truth will

Love doesn't hurt..loving the wrong person does.

Posted on October 17, 2016 at 4:00 PM Comments comments (1)

It took a while for me to understand this, but when I did, I realized whatever choice I make in life has a consequence. If I choose to stay in a relationship with someone who hasn't respected me, hurtled me, is some type of way- I can't blame them nor hold it against them. I am an adult and whatever choice I make, is my choice. Whether it's a mistake or the best thing for me, it's MY choice. This is why I only can say so much to people who ask me for my advice. I've been in their boat before, so I know what it's like to love someone so much- it's stupid. Loving them so much that I put my life and goals on pause, loving them so much I compromise who I am, and worst of all was when I lost myself. I had to do a lot of soul searching after that. I've been single now for 3 years with many attempts at dating and meeting guys in between. I'll be honest with you. I joke around a lot and say I'll be single forever or that I need a boyfriend, but within, I'm so satisfied with my journey thus far. I've literally had some of the most hurtful and shady things happen to me in the past few years. Some of which I've kept outside of my writing cause my goal is never to make other people look like the assholes that they are. Instead, I try to share my learning experiences as honest as I can without basically blasting people. I'll tell you this one thing I want you to sleep on tonight. If friends, family, coworker's, spouses hurt you-don't wait for them to change. Don't assume they will and don't always take their word for the benefit of the doubt. Respect yourself enough to know when you've got to do you and distant yourself from toxicity. Life is too short and being single won't kill you. You're beautiful - don't settle.

Inner Battle

Posted on September 30, 2016 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Shoutout to those fighting a battle that no one understands or knows about. Stay strong and keep going."

Psychology is interesting to me. Have you ever heard the term, cognitive dissonance? It is when we believe something is true, the less likely we are to believe that its opposite is true, even in the face of clear evidence that shows we are wrong. There is a disconnection between what we believe in our minds and what we experience in reality. I think that this effects us in life so greatly because no matter the facts, we've made a pre-conceived decision or perception of the situation in our minds. This already made belief may be what's holding you back from living in happiness. May it be that you have decided you'll never succeed, find love or peace. You see, by creating the mindset to fail, lose or not "win," even if opportunity knocked on your door for real love, commitment, success- you wouldn't be able to see it. You've built an image and choice in your mind of what that is, subconsciously. Today, I ask you to share with a good friend or spouse something that you'd like to have your perception changed on. Whether it is that all men cheat, you can't get into Med school, or whatever- hear yourself say it out loud and ask yourself, "Am I benefiting myself by thinking this?" Change starts within, my dear. We're all fighting inner demons, voices that tell us we're no good, not enough or need to do better. I'll tell you this, you're more than enough- you're the best. Go get em, tiger. I believe in you.

Inner Battle

Posted on September 30, 2016 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Shoutout to those fighting a battle that no one understands or knows about. Stay strong and keep going."

Psychology is interesting to me. Have you ever heard the term, cognitive dissonance? It is when we believe something is true, the less likely we are to believe that its opposite is true, even in the face of clear evidence that shows we are wrong. There is a disconnection between what we believe in our minds and what we experience in reality. I think that this effects us in life so greatly because no matter the facts, we've made a pre-conceived decision or perception of the situation in our minds. This already made belief may be what's holding you back from living in happiness. May it be that you have decided you'll never succeed, find love or peace. You see, by creating the mindset to fail, lose or not "win," even if opportunity knocked on your door for real love, commitment, success- you wouldn't be able to see it. You've built an image and choice in your mind of what that is, subconsciously. Today, I ask you to share with a good friend or spouse something that you'd like to have your perception changed on. Whether it is that all men cheat, you can't get into Med school, or whatever- hear yourself say it out loud and ask yourself, "Am I benefiting myself by thinking this?" Change starts within, my dear. We're all fighting inner demons, voices that tell us we're no good, not enough or need to do better. I'll tell you this, you're more than enough- you're the best. Go get em, tiger. I believe in you.

Cut the Ties.

Posted on September 30, 2016 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Sometimes holding on does more damage than letting go..."

It is easy to WANT to be with someone or WANT them to want you. But, you cannot make someone feel the beautiful emotions that come naturally when you truly care for someone. Even with love, it is easy to mistake our emotions. We love many things, such as dancing, going out with friends, working out, etc. But when we CARE about them, we respect them for who they are and we value their time, love, and happiness.

First and foremost, you need to understand your worth as a person. You are far too unique to spend your life longing for someone who doesn’t want you or for someone who doesn’t desire you in their lives. Sometimes, in the ways you want or need them to. Sometimes they want to just be friends, but if you cannot imagine doing so, don’t.

Many people think that if they’re able to satisfy a person’s desires, they will want them. False. A person should want you for who you are, not what you can bring them. Because you are talented, kind, and thoughtful. Not because you’re able to provide materialistic items for them or provide them with company. They need to love you for you, on their own.

You need to stop holding onto people who don't want to be held. You have to LEARN to forget the people who haveforgotten about you.

After all, there are nearly 7 billion people in the world. Why are you letting one rule you?