|Posted on June 27, 2017 at 1:05 PM||comments (0)|
"I do not want to be liked. I want to be myself."
A few years ago, I remember watching Katy Perry's movie in theaters and falling in love with her heart, goofy personality and free spirit. She reminded me a lot of the me that only those who really know me see. The silly, dorky, clumsy, hopeless romantic person I am. I cried when she got dumped while on tour, laughed when she went to the cat museum and felt hopeful when I heard her explain to her fans that she'd just been heartbroken and continued to sing. Recently, she filmed a live 96 hour stream, sharing raw footage of her behind the scenes. I haven't seen it yet, but I did see a short video of her crying about wanting to forget the "Katy Perry" image people have come to love. It's so empowering to see someone realize that they no longer love a person they once were and are ok and accepting of being someone new. Pain changes us and it also evolves us into a new person. Sometimes in the journey of losing who we were and finding who we are, we feel lost and alone. If you ever have doubts, need a friend or want to share your worries, email me. You should never feel alone and know that in the end, you're going to be ok. You've just got to keep your head up and remember, you were perfect then, you're perfect now and you'll still be perfect later. You're allowed to change.
|Posted on January 18, 2017 at 4:55 PM||comments (0)|
"You should really give a fuck. You really should.
But only about things that set your soul on fire. Save your fucks for magical shit."
Life's a little too short to lose sleep on the insignificant matters in life. Whenever I find myself caring a little too much about things out of my control, I remember that all I can do is make sure I'm a good person (in my eyes). Show up, be present and give it all you've got. You can't make everyone happy and not everyone's drama is worthy of your time. Choose wisely. There are people out there with way more serious problems to be allowing small matters that won't matter a year from now to stop you from reaching your greatest potential. Keep doing you, babe. It was never about you anyway. #prayforthem #iprayforyou #lifequotes
|Posted on January 18, 2017 at 4:50 PM||comments (0)|
Throughout high school and college, I suffered from severe anxiety attacks when it came to #publicspeaking. I avoided it at all cost, even dropping out of classes to avoid my fears. I even had my therapist write a letter to my professors so that I could avoid them. (Extreme, I know) Nonetheless, I'm still working extremely hard to overcome my fear. I think that with anything in life, the more you avoid things..the more challenging they become. I think it goes the same for love. No matter how hurt you've been, you can't avoid love. The more you avoid it, the more difficult it becomes when you're confronted with the opportunity. For the longest time, when I'd date, I was like a wall. Guys would talk to me and I'd stare back with hardly any emotion. Truth is, I built a wall to guard and protect myself. Problem is that it did nothing for me, other than hinder me from possibly meeting a great person and even avoiding growth. I think that in life, you can't avoid the inevitable. You've got to put yourself out there and try more, because at the end of the day... what's going to happen, will. Showing up is the most difficult part, but you have to. #effort #growth
|Posted on January 10, 2017 at 5:05 PM||comments (0)|
In life, we aren't always given the answer, reasoning or evidence to what will eventually make sense. One of the greatest challenges I've overcome in the past few years is learning to trust what happens is not against me and nothing is happening TO me. Everything that occurs in my life or around me is destined to help me become a better, greater me. Nothing nor no one can ever take away my ability to smile or be happy. This sort of decision is only one you can make within yourself when you decide that your life is your own and who comes in and out of it, were never meant to be with you. Learn to accept that people come and go, by choice or not. Learn that events will come and some never again. Learn to be still within the moments of good and bad, because one day you'll want to look back on them to see that things were better or worse. Growth is realizing you've overcome and will overcome whatever is handed your way. You can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but having the faith within to know that it will eventually be found is what kept me going for many years. When it is finally found, made clear or even realized...that full-circle moment will be worth all the confusion. Keep your head up, darling. You're worth it. #lightattheendofthetunnel
|Posted on October 25, 2016 at 6:05 PM||comments (1)|
Everyday we have the choice to be happy. For a short time, several years ago, I went to therapy and asked my therapist, "How do I become happy?" I thought there was a secret method that no one shared and all those people who were smiling, knew it. Long story short, he helped me realize how simple it was. It truly came down to me making a choice every single day. I don't cry much, anymore. It kind of feels weird that sometimes I crave a good cry. I realized it's not because I'm SO happy or that I'm not sad, it's because I've found something good in everyday. Our wounds, our past and our failures are not us. It's our character, attitude and passion that makes us who we are. Never let a bad situation take away that YOU that everyone adores so much. I'm here for you. X
|Posted on October 17, 2016 at 4:00 PM||comments (1)|
It took a while for me to understand this, but when I did, I realized whatever choice I make in life has a consequence. If I choose to stay in a relationship with someone who hasn't respected me, hurtled me, is some type of way- I can't blame them nor hold it against them. I am an adult and whatever choice I make, is my choice. Whether it's a mistake or the best thing for me, it's MY choice. This is why I only can say so much to people who ask me for my advice. I've been in their boat before, so I know what it's like to love someone so much- it's stupid. Loving them so much that I put my life and goals on pause, loving them so much I compromise who I am, and worst of all was when I lost myself. I had to do a lot of soul searching after that. I've been single now for 3 years with many attempts at dating and meeting guys in between. I'll be honest with you. I joke around a lot and say I'll be single forever or that I need a boyfriend, but within, I'm so satisfied with my journey thus far. I've literally had some of the most hurtful and shady things happen to me in the past few years. Some of which I've kept outside of my writing cause my goal is never to make other people look like the assholes that they are. Instead, I try to share my learning experiences as honest as I can without basically blasting people. I'll tell you this one thing I want you to sleep on tonight. If friends, family, coworker's, spouses hurt you-don't wait for them to change. Don't assume they will and don't always take their word for the benefit of the doubt. Respect yourself enough to know when you've got to do you and distant yourself from toxicity. Life is too short and being single won't kill you. You're beautiful - don't settle.
|Posted on September 23, 2016 at 12:15 PM||comments (0)|
"Everybody has gone through something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person they once were."
There's always more truth to a story than the one we hear, because often times, we are only hearing one side. Listening to one side is one truth of what really happened. My mom always taught me to be a bigger person in situations and in that she meant to take the high road. To some, that means forgiving those who've wronged us. To me, it's cutting those people off. This didn't come naturally to me because I'm a very forgiving person and I've even sacrificed my own self worth in the past to accommodate to other's comfort. After finding that it did me no good, I tried something different. I tried cutting ties that didn't need to be together. Some knots are meant to be untied, cut and let loose. I'm not here to prove to anyone who's right or who's wrong- I just do what's good for me. Not everyone will get that or agree or accept that your reasonings are enough for the choices YOU've made for yourself. Isn't that funny? Who cares? Yes, who cares. Do what's right for you, right now, and in your heart. The truth of the matter is that no matter what, people will always perceive a situation in their own light. No matter your motives, reasoning or choice- it's not going to make sense to them and people who don't get things, judge them or hate them. Know that whether you're guilty of doing so or have, it's never too late to change. It's never too late to stop judging, assuming or basing your own interpretation of something based on what you see, feel or think to be true. There's always more to a story than the one you see or hear. Still, know your truth and as long as you know it in your heart, you won't need to explain it to others who only see their perfection to be true.
|Posted on September 23, 2016 at 12:15 PM||comments (0)|
"Shoutout to those fighting a battle that no one understands or knows about. Stay strong and keep going."
Psychology is interesting to me. Have you ever heard the term, cognitive dissonance? It is when we believe something is true, the less likely we are to believe that its opposite is true, even in the face of clear evidence that shows we are wrong. There is a disconnection between what we believe in our minds and what we experience in reality. I think that this effects us in life so greatly because no matter the facts, we've made a pre-conceived decision or perception of the situation in our minds. This already made belief may be what's holding you back from living in happiness. May it be that you have decided you'll never succeed, find love or peace. You see, by creating the mindset to fail, lose or not "win," even if opportunity knocked on your door for real love, commitment, success- you wouldn't be able to see it. You've built an image and choice in your mind of what that is, subconsciously. Today, I ask you to share with a good friend or spouse something that you'd like to have your perception changed on. Whether it is that all men cheat, you can't get into Med school, or whatever- hear yourself say it out loud and ask yourself, "Am I benefiting myself by thinking this?" Change starts within, my dear. We're all fighting inner demons, voices that tell us we're no good, not enough or need to do better. I'll tell you this, you're more than enough- you're the best. Go get em, tiger. I believe in you.
|Posted on September 20, 2016 at 1:10 PM||comments (0)|
"Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn't settle for it."
I think that there are a lot of things in life worth sacrificing for, but your self-worth should never be one. You should never feel compelled to stay where you're not appreciated, not heard, not felt. Your love is exquisite and deserves to feel that way and that only occurs when you're appreciated for who you are.
|Posted on September 6, 2016 at 1:15 PM||comments (0)|