|Posted on June 27, 2017 at 1:05 PM||comments (0)|
"The comeback is always stronger
than the setback."
I genuinely believe that before things become great, they fall apart. We feel defeated, lost, confused and unable to move forward. It is in these moments that our strength is tested most. It is in these moments that we are reminded how strong we are. Above all, it is in these moments we gain our wings. So, let go of all you think you have to be and remember who YOU ARE. You're badass & this is only the beginning. #getitgirl
|Posted on June 21, 2017 at 2:45 AM||comments (0)|
"Self-care is how you take your power back."
I believe hat self-love comes in many forms. Learning to love yourself has to be one of the most challenging, dynamic and eye opening experiences in my opinion. We're not taught how to love ourselves and often grow our perceptions of ourselves by the opinions of others. Today, I have a greater appreciation of loving myself. I've learned the importance of knowing myself and not allowing the opinion of others to take away from how I see myself. Be sure to fall in love with yourself first, love.
|Posted on June 6, 2017 at 3:45 PM||comments (0)|
I received an email last week from a follower who was having trouble dating. Her problem wasn't that she couldn't find anyone, but that for the life of her, she couldn't let people in. After exchanging a few emails, I realized what could possibly be the "problem." She had her guard up. She'd been hurt before and after knowing what it felt like to be broken before, she was always careful to avoid coming close to it again. Instead of taking chances and risking drowning in love, she chose to stay near the shore..where the tides are low and she can feel the sand beneath her feet. I think that it's easy to stay close to what we know and that's why we tend to repeat our mistakes, no matter how we much try to avoid them. It's easier to play with what we know, than to explore something new. She felt worried that she may have lost out on good people because of her fear of getting hurt. I could tell she may have been close to loving again before, buts something always led her to slip it like grains of sand through her hands. I think it's okay to be a careful person, but not at the expense of growing. Heartache, experience, and lessons are merely stepping stones that shape us to who we are to become. A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing grows from there. You grow most in the times that you feel the least amount of comfort. Swim away from the shore, my dear. #comfort #therapy #water
|Posted on June 4, 2017 at 11:55 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted on June 4, 2017 at 11:55 PM||comments (0)|
When a woman is single, most people assume she is loanely. Most people assume that she needs to find a boyfriend. I think that's where the problem begins. There's a beautiful journey that can only take place when one is single. In that journey, one will usually find their strengths, hobbies and even what they don't like. They'll find themselves, if they learn to enjoy the space that's with them. Some don't. Some never do, because that space feels more like an empty void that needs to be filled. I've found that its easy to fill that void, but not always with good. It can be easily filled to make you not feel alone with toxic behavior such as drinking, smoking, sex or even food. The problem is that the substance lacks depth and once it leaves you, you feel empty again. This is why I've found it's important to be content alone, before a relationship. Nothing is guaranteed in life and we may lose people. To know what you're worthy of, alone, lasts you a lifetime. Enjoy the ride and trust the journey. Also, don't m assume that just because a woman is sitting alone, she is waiting for you. My advice for the women who are seeking a partner, go out and enjoy the solitude. If you allow time and space to let him find you, you'll meet on the right path, at the right time. For now, enjoy your independence.
|Posted on June 1, 2017 at 2:15 AM||comments (0)|
I went on a hike yesterday. Just a few weeks ago, all the flowers had just bloomed and the trail was bright and beautiful. When I went yesterday, everything had died. It was evident that it hadn’t rained…leaving everything to die. It made me realize how quickly we can let things, like relationships, suffer or flourish. Think of this. Each time you take their call, you're letting air in. Each time they disrespect you, hurt you and disregard your feelings- you vow you're done. You announce that you're moving on, but months later...you're in the same mess. What does it take to be done? I think there's honestly no magic answer other than having no choice. I've been there. Taken someone back over and over and over again. I always wonder why no one around me told me not to. Seriously- no one told me that it was dead. I always wonder if they knew or that they, too, had hope that a miracle would happen. In my book, I talk about how I finally walked away. It wasn't by choice completely. After allowing someone so many chances, over and over again, I didn't realize I was basically aiding them to think a little less of me each time. You see, the more chances you give someone who clearly doesn't give a shit about your feelings, the less they respect you. They may say they care, but what have their actions shown you? Actions speak, babe. Years later, I'm so grateful for all that has occurred to help me know it was dead. You see, walking away isn't something that's supposed to be easy when you don't want to walk away. Get that out of your head. Walking away, having self-control and the will power to say no more is a choice only you can make to trusting that something down the line will be better for you. It is VERY difficult to do. It's not supposed to feel good or right and you're supposed to want to try more, but when something is dead, you're just choosing not to see reality. That my friend, is suffocating yourself. I promise that what is on the other side of the mountain is so much greater than anything you’re leaving behind in the dust.
|Posted on May 22, 2017 at 4:00 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted on May 18, 2017 at 11:40 AM||comments (0)|
Every now and then, I buy myself flowers. I don't think that women give enough back to themselves. They're always sacrificing, giving, and working their butts off. They also wait. Wait for someone to come along and see their worth. It's important to remind yourself that, "You deserve it." Never forget what you bring to the table and I don't mean looks, finances or material things. I mean deep down to your roots. Who are you? Know her. Be her. A wise woman named Anais Nin once said, "How wrong is it for a woman to expect the man to build the world she wants, rather than to create it herself?" There are a lot of flowers to pick from in this world, so be sure you know the beauty of what you offer. You don't just pick the prettiest flower and find happiness. The happiness comes from planting a seed, nurturing it and watching it blossom into the extraordinary flower it is. Don't settle when you're worthy of the garden. Don't wait for someone to bring you the life you deserve- build it. Build a solid foundation, nurture it everyday, and speak kindly to yourself. When you do good things for yourself, like properly healing, you will see that in time, you've become someone who's strong on their own.
Above all, fight for the woman you're becoming.
|Posted on May 16, 2017 at 1:10 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted on May 8, 2017 at 11:35 AM||comments (0)|
Marry the person who brings out the best in you, makes you a better person and encourages you to live life positively, happily and helps you grow. #empathy #thisislove #loveis #gala #humansofnewyork #ryanreynolds