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Happy 4th Birthday, Bubba!

Posted on October 25, 2017 at 1:00 PM Comments comments (0)




Four years ago, I was in a very different place than I am today. I was freshly single after a four year relationship and felt completely lost. I no longer knew who I was and also played the victim card. I was very vulnerable and whenever something occurred, I would ask, “Why me?” Not too long after, I came across a dog at a pet shop that I wanted soooo badly. She seemed like the perfect fit for me. After applying to rescue her and learning that I didn’t get her, I was crushed. Already feeling rejected, it was the last thing my heart could handle. I was learning an important lesson that I wouldn’t realize until a few months later and that is that she wasn’t my dog. Nope, a cute, silly, and troubled dog named Bubba was. I would meet him exactly a few weeks later and adopting him was so easy, it was effortless! Since that day and everyday after, my dog, also my best friend, has gifted me with life lesson after life lesson. He helped me find my passions again and gave me a healthy outlook on life. That is to trust that the right things come to you at the right time and never a day early. I have a quote written and placed in a frame right next to his photo in my room that I look at whenever I need a little reminding that things will make sense one day, even if they do not now. It’s a quote @createthelove shared before and it really resonated with me. It reads, “I hope you have the courage to live the kind of life that gets you to the place we are to meet, and don’t spend it loving someone else with half your heart, because you were afraid I wouldn’t show up.” Indiana Jones uncovered the cult of the mummy’s crypt, and so did I...four years ago! Happy 4th birthday to the best treasure I have found. I love being your Mummy. �� #whorescuedwho #indiannajones #halloween #lifelessonsfrommydogbubba #trust

Be with you.

Posted on October 25, 2017 at 2:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"DON'T BE FLATTERED THAT HE MISSES YOU. HE SHOULD MISS YOU. YOU'RE DEEPLY MISSABLE. HOWEVER, HE'S STILL THE SAME PERSON WHO JUST BROKE UP WITH YOU. REMEMBER, THE ONLY REASON HE CAN MISS YOU IS BECAUSE HE'S CHOOSING, EVERY DAY, NOT TO BE WITH YOU."


Don’t ever doubt your uniqueness, your amazingness...your rarity. There’s a lot of people in this world, but there’s only one you. I’ve seen many women leave the value of their worth in the hands of people incapable of ever knowing what they’ve got. No one is going to come and rescue you...teach you your worth. Even if I tried, I couldn’t. It’s up to you to dig deep, find the traits that you love, and even the ones you don’t so much. It’s up to you the mend the pieces that are tangled and learn to love them for what they are...pieces of YOU. That’s what makes you beautiful after all. Know your worth, princess. Know what you bring to the table. Know that you’r

Currently.

Posted on October 25, 2017 at 2:50 AM Comments comments (0)


MY CURRENT SITUATION IS NOT MY FINAL DESTINATION.

Someone once told me, "If God keeps opening the doors for you, Shima, keep walking through them." It was so powerful and reminded me that oftentimes we forget that we've overcome everything we've been through up until this point and we will continue to. Find the inner warrior within you whenever times are tough and remember your purpose. It is what will fuel your fire. This Tuesday, keep in mind that, "If you are willing to do more than you are paid to do, eventually you will be paid to do more than you do."

Choose her.

Posted on October 25, 2017 at 2:45 AM Comments comments (0)


"The woman you are becoming will cost you people, relationships, spaces, and material things...

Choose her over everthing."

Have you ever looked back at a string of events to realize none of it was random? That everything that led you to your current situation was necessary for you to endure...the good, the bad, the ugly. Some events are meant to teach you to be appreciative, some for you to learn your worth, and sometimes to teach you who isn’t worth it. Nonetheless, they always teach you something. I’ve recently realized something interesting that has occurred in my life and that is a pattern. Yup, a string of events that occurred twice that have brought me full-circle. What I can tell you from these events is that I am extremely glad that some things didn’t work out the way I once wanted them to. Had they have been mine before, I probably would not have valued them like I do today. I’m in a different mindset, different place in my life to realize the value of things better. Like good people. With time, maturity, and greater life lessons, you begin to realize who’s worth it, who never was, and who will always be. Thankful for the lessons...always.

Blooming

Posted on October 24, 2017 at 2:40 AM Comments comments (0)

WHAT I LIKE ABOUT HER IS THAT SHE BLOOMS WHETHER YOU WATER HER OR NOT.

WHETHER YOU GIVE HER LIGHT OR NOT.

SHE EXISTS WITHOUT YOUR EXISTENCE.


I wish more women knew that they didn’t need a man to define their worth. That they are enough. That being single doesn’t mean lonely or alone. I wish they could see what I see...someone who is simply beautiful. �� �� �� Ladies, please don’t think that because you’re single it defines who you are as a person. Being single is not a curse. Enjoy your journey...even if it doesn’t make sense today. But most importantly, learn to water your own garden and be nice to it. Water it with compliments, love, and nurture it as if it relied heavily on only your words. What would you say? The way you speak to yourself, your soul, prepares you of the kind of relationships you’ll allow in your garden. Remember, you’re a rose that’s rare and not everyone will see your worth. Some will fear your thorns and some will prefer a different color. That’s okay. All that matters is what YOU think of your garden. So, let me ask you again. How do you speak to your garden? Is it growing or in desperate need of TLC?

Faith in humanity

Posted on October 24, 2017 at 2:35 AM Comments comments (0)



I always thought it was interesting how rarely we celebrate those who are willing to give love a chance again. Maybe it’s because often we see people jump from one relationship to another. Yet, there are so many who lock up the doors...swear they won’t go out anymore. Well, I’m here to recognize those who are willing to give love another shot. I am here to tell you that I admire your bravery. Having your heart broken, betrayed, and devalued isn’t easy to come back from. It isn’t to be open to love, to have faith, or to believe when you’ve been shown otherwise. This is why I want you to know that I see you, all the way over there, trying again. It’s beautiful. It’s empowering. It’s encouraging. The truth is, you either get bitter or you become better. Take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you better, stronger, wiser. A lot of what weighs you down isn’t yours to carry. Let go, live free, and find your faith in humanity again.

Entitled.

Posted on October 24, 2017 at 2:35 AM Comments comments (0)

THERE ISN'T A SINGLE MAN ON THIS PLANET WHO IS ENTITLED TO TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT.

REMEMBER THAT.

Why do women stay where they are unappreciated? I think for multiple reasons, but most commonly because they feel embarrassed. Yes, embarrassed. Women are the sacrificing type- always have been. It’s also why women are born to be mothers...they give without expectation. This character they carry is so rare, so genuine...it’s a woman’s love. It sees no boundaries that even where no path lies, they create one. For this, they tend to attempt over and over to make dead relationships come back to life. They give their all, even if it’s not reciprocated. Every women learns on their own time, though, when enough is enough and they must walk away. This is when they find their power and sometimes, they do it without option. They are forced to give up because the other person has already given up on them. I hope you never forget the beauty of your trying heart, but know when to walk away.

Want them to be.

Posted on October 24, 2017 at 2:30 AM Comments comments (0)
PEOPLE TELL US WHO THEY ARE,
BUT WE IGNORE IT BECAUSE WE WANT THEM TO BE 
WHO WE WANT THEM TO BE.
-Don Draper

Have you ever wondered what life would be like if people came with a sign in front of their heads, explaining why they do the things they do or don't do. How much easier it would be to accept people for who they are rather than who we wanted them to be. Sometimes, I think we are given warning signs and choose to ignore them. I think women in particular tend to look at others through rose-colored glasses. Meaning that despite bad behaviors someone may show them, they choose to only see the good. Rather than focusing on the negative, they remember only the good things someone has done. Whether this is a good trait or not, whether you do this or not, we’ve all been in a place where someone has shown us their true colors and we’ve looked pass them. Trying to read someone's mind is so annoying! Trying to understand their unspoken words and thoughts can be draining. Sweetheart, we’ve all wished that the good could outweigh the bad, but we all know that the only person who’d hurt is us. Don’t lie to your heart...it deserves more than that. Some battle scars are too deep that even when healed, they can never fade. Pick your battles wisely but make sure the person you’re with would also go to war for you and never with you.

Right for you.

Posted on October 20, 2017 at 6:05 PM Comments comments (0)

DON'T LET THEM MAKE YOU FEEL BAD FOR FEELING A WAY ABOUT SOME FUCKED UP SHIT THEY DID.


I’ve learned that it’s important to forgive people who’ve wronged you. Forgiveness is something you do for you. It’s something that opens space in your heart to heal. It’s something that helps eliminate carrying baggage with you. Forgiving isn’t something you do for others. It’s for you. To get to it, though, it takes time. It needs to be done on your own time...in whatever way you feel good in. For me, forgiving didn’t come easy. It took a lot of reading, writing, hikes, therapy sessions, music, and time with nature to mend the parts of me that were broken. It took lots of reading to understand why people do things. I think this is when I began to forgive, truthfully. It was never because I got a “sorry.” It was never because I had an aha moment. It was never because of them. It was because I was tired of letting someone who no longer was in my life dictate my choices, feelings, and happiness. That’s forgiveness, love. It’s forgiving yourself, too. No one is perfect and your journey was especially designed to bring you from one page of your book to another. Just do me a favor and be ok with living life on your own terms. Go against what’s expected of you. Don’t give in to bullshit people and their bullshit stories of how you should feel, be or should have handled anything. You did what was right at the time and what was right for you. That’s all that matters anyway.

Fall seven times, stand up eight.

Posted on October 20, 2017 at 5:55 PM Comments comments (0)

Don’t give up on a dream just because of the time it’ll take to get there or because another door slammed shut on your face. Be open to what you’ll discover and don’t be afraid of opening a new one, even if there’s a chance it may close on you, too. Just be wise enough to know when to go and when to stay. Some opportunities, for all intents and purposes, look like a brick wall. Impossible. But what you’ll soon discover is that when something is worth discovering, like what may be hidden on the other side, we find a way.





As they say, where there’s a will, there’s a way. Sometimes we build walls to see who is patient enough to find a way in. I just hope that you don’t give in to fear when the right one is standing there. You may fall trying to find your way in, but don’t let it stop you from reaching the top. Fall seven times, stand up eight.