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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life...it goes on."- Robert Frost

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CrownED.

Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Fix her crown without letting the

world know it was crooked."


Gentlemen, I get a few emails from you questioning why the ladies you’re pursuing are standoffish, show no interest, etc. 9/10 Times, I’ve asked them when their previous relationship ended. Often, you don’t know. When pursuing a woman, it is important to know things that have shaped her. Not to “punish” her, rather to have a greater insight to know if she’s ready for commitment or what she’s looking for. Also, it allows you to know what parts of her need healing. Maybe it’s not her heart. Maybe it’s her thought process. For a short period, before I decided enough is enough, I had a negative outlook on men. All men. I didn’t care how good they treated me or that they’d send me flowers at work, I ignored all of them. Why? Because my head wasn’t in the game. The prince of Egypt could have tried to court me and I would have ignored him. A woman who’s been hurt is not a bitch. She’s guarded. Rather than trying to win her over with things she’s seen before, gifts and flowers, sit her down. Don’t butter up with words that have lost value. Just simply, get to know her. Find common interest, hobbies, and remind her of the good. With time, if she’s meant for you, she’ll always remember you as the guy who cared more about her heart than her ass. Women talk. We tell our friends about these things and good friends, won’t let good guys pass our friends. We tell them who’s worth giving a shot and who isn’t. So, be kind to her heart. It’s been broken. Be yourself and allow quality time, memories, and good conversation to give her that confidence she needs to try again.

Better work for it.

Posted on January 11, 2018 at 4:55 PM Comments comments (0)
"A man that does not work to get you will not work to keep you."

The RIGHT guy for YOU won’t give up easily...I promise you. If they see your value, worth, and know what you bring to the table from the very beginning, they’ll continue working to be the keeper of your heart vs. giving up easily. A man who knows what he wants will always have his eye on you, even if you’re stubborn and push him away...he will respect your needs, but will always have his eye on you, ready to pursue you again when you’re ready. Find that man. The one who never gave up on you because he knew you were worth the wait, energy, time, and most of all, the commitment.

Never stop showing your spouse how much you love them.

Posted on January 11, 2018 at 4:50 PM Comments comments (0)

I’ve been recently listing to an audio book that focuses on how we all perceive, receive, and accept love differently. I’ve been so intrigued on the topic because of all the friends I’ve gained through this blog. Relationships are such a large part of who we are and I’ve noticed, as much as we deny it, we all want and strive for real love. At dinner last night, I noticed things in my other half that I’ve learned to value more with age. Those things are eye-contact, undivided attention, and interest in my day. No two loves are the same, but I feel it is important to acknowledge that no matter how much we grow, evolve, and change....the littlest things always go a long way.

Path of least resistance

Posted on January 8, 2018 at 5:20 PM Comments comments (0)

Many years ago, I gained a strength within me that made all the difference in how I went about life. It is something we are all born with, taught, but easily forget. It is the God forsaken right to CHOOSE how we want to feel day in and day out. When times feel stressful, we naturally like to take the path of least resistance. The one that will get us from point A to B, with the least amount of hurdles, twists, and turns. The truth is- those climbs, steep hills, and rough roads are the very moments can be where making the right choice makes all the difference. To reap great results in life, you have to try hardest when you don’t feel like it. Take the road less traveled.

Unplug

Posted on January 8, 2018 at 5:20 PM Comments comments (0)


"Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes...including you."


It’s always been in my nature to work, work, work. I get it from my parents. However, I also love my downtime -it’s how and where I refuel my drive, passion, and creativity. We all need a place or thing that gives that to us and I don’t think a person should be it. Find something you love like walking, laying in the park, doing a puzzle, hiking, etc. Whatever it is, build your schedule around it. That was the best advice a doctor once gave me. We put things like taking care of ourselves after we’ve build our busy schedules like getting a massage, facial, etc. The truth is- these are the important, take care of yourself activities that will ignite your fire again. Rest, when you need to. Today, I’m taking an off day and taking my dogs hiking. It’s important for me to spend time with them and more importantly, to feel at one with nature. It’s where I feel inspired to write for you. This year, I ask you to do more kind things for yourself. Watch how much you’ll glow with a little more rest.

Life Motto

Posted on January 8, 2018 at 5:15 PM Comments comments (0)

"I care more about my relationship with my inner being than anything else. If I'm not in alignment with myself, I have nothing to offer anyone."


My life motto is simple. “I’ll take care of me for you if you take care of you for me.” Supporting, encouraging, and rooting for your spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend should be a given. However, it is not your job to do things for them. You have a lot to take care of on your own-#1 being your mental health. No one can give you enough love, fulfillment, or confidence until you feel it for yourself first. When you do, you learn to distinguish the difference between feelings and your thoughts. Don’t let your feelings ever control your thoughts, mind, or have the power to break you. Why? Feelings are always temporary. Your mindset is not.

Pick yourself up

Posted on January 3, 2018 at 1:10 PM Comments comments (0)

"Learning to pick yourself up after going through shit is

such an important thing that no one ever teaches you."


Better yet, being your own hero. You don’t need to wait for Prince Charming, a knight in shining armor, or a hero. Pick your beautiful self up, straighten your crown, and remember your worth.

Same heart.

Posted on January 3, 2018 at 1:10 PM Comments comments (0)


JUST REMEMBER NOT EVERYONE HAS

THE SAME HEART AS YOU.

This lesson was probably one of the hardest to learn. Most likely because of my ego, pride, and belief that there is good in everyone. It was a hard pill to swallow, to learn that just because you wouldn’t do something to do someone, it didn’t mean others wouldn’t do the same. My takeaway from this is that you shouldn’t stop yourself from being a great person, caring, and especially thinking of others because very seldom do. However, realize that sometimes as difficult as it may sound or believe to be true, it had nothing to do with you. People do a lot of things for their own good before they stop to think how it’ll effect those around them. When you realize this, you release anger, frustration, and sadness. It’s a healthy thing to do.

Keep Shining

Posted on January 2, 2018 at 1:25 PM Comments comments (0)

2017 was all kinds of wonderful. One of the greatest lessons I learned was that everything in life is like a boomerang.

What you put out there, good or bad, the energy, the attitude, the vibes...eventually comes back to you. Focus on your own lane. Work on becoming better than you were yesterday and remain unbothered by people’s wrongdoings. Be your own competition. Don’t get distracted by what others have in their lives. We always want what someone else has. Be grateful. Be centered. Be you. Do that, and I promise...you’re the one that will always win. Happy NYE, everyone! Stay safe & don’t ever let someone dim your light, simply because it’s shining in their eye.


“Cheers to a new year and another chance for us to get it right.” ✨ #nye

Go after the dream.

Posted on January 2, 2018 at 1:25 PM Comments comments (0)

One of the best lessons I’m taking away from 2017 was learned from my cousin. Though initially her parents could not accept her relationship, she stuck by him, her beliefs, and her confidence in the relationship. I’ve learned if things matter to you, it doesn’t always matter what he or she thinks. At the end of the day, we are always responsible for our actions and how we feel. Everything that occurs is typically in result of a choice we once made. Put up a fight for what you love & never settle for less than butterflies. You deserve to live the life you’ve always imagined...however that looks to you. Don’t go into a career your parents want, don’t marry just because you feel you’re getting old. Never set limitations on yourself.