|Posted on October 19, 2017 at 3:00 PM||comments (0)|
"Yeah, you're attractive,
but are you good for my mental health?"
You don’t realize how heavy toxicity is on your soul until you’re far and free from it. By free I mean that you’ve spent some time alone to find yourself again. The other day, I tried #Reiki. I went to @santamonicahealing and decided to give it a shot. I’ve only heard good things about it and being the open-minded person I am, I always believe in giving things a chance. I was instantly welcomed and felt a great sense of energy being there. I was simply reminded with a hug, session, and some time listening to what my soul needed that I’ve come a long way. Yes, a long way. I used to take so much stupid shit in relationships because I thought that’s what you’re supposed to do. You’re supposed to be there for people through the highs and lows. You’re supposed to be their shoulder when times are rough. Well, guess what? Who’s say you’re supposed to do shit? Especially when it’s not being reciprocated. That’s the thing about a push-pull relationship. Only one person is giving and the other is pushing you away. You know what that does to a person’s mental health? It fucks them up. It makes them think that something is wrong with them for wanting to help, care, and give. Not everyone is ready for the love you give, but you know who’s always waiting for a little more? You. Your mind, your body, your soul. It may fight you, but with a little loving, patience, and giving...your soul will thank you for loving it like you’ve been trying to love everyone around you. My dear, so many people try to escape seasons of loneliness and as fall and winter roll around, please don’t feel “lonely.” If you are feeling sad or alone, feel it. Be in it. Until you feel like a masterpiece alone, you’ll never connect with people for the right reasons. Be the person you’ve been to others and watch how quickly you’ll grow. You come first.
|Posted on September 9, 2017 at 2:05 AM||comments (0)|
I talk to a lot of different kind of women everyday.
Over the years, I've learned the importance of being compassionate for people and where they are in their journey. I try not to get upset when I'm looking at a beautiful woman who's broken. I have to remember that maybe she hasn't gotten to the page in her book where she realizes what she has to offer someone and hasn't gotten to the plot of the story where her strength is regained. I sympathize with these girls...because I was once her. The women I'm talking about are not beautiful because of their beautiful skin, hair, eyes, or smile. No, they're beautiful because of their hearts. I think, if they're capable of loving someone so unworthy of their hearts....can you imagine what loving the right person will do to them? How differently they'll shine, how much value they'll bring to those around them, and how happy they feel. So happy that from the inside out, they glow. A lot of times, these women are simply a museum of art in a room full of losers who have their eyes shut...simply incapable of capturing their uniqueness and beauty. The truth is, I'm not worried about these kind of women. No, I never am. Because I know that a time will come where she'll remember who she is and the game will change. She's just got to keep looking until she finds what's within. ✨ #loveyourself @leeniephotography #optoutside
|Posted on August 22, 2017 at 1:45 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted on August 7, 2017 at 3:20 PM||comments (0)|
I remember speaking with a friend several years ago who was dealing with a breakup. She told me, “I gave him my fries when he finished his and was still hungry.” She couldn’t understand for the life of her how someone she cared so deeply for could be so careless with her heart. Despite how much he’d hurt her, she still cared for his wellbeing and happiness. I told her that sometimes no matter the neglect, sadness, and hurt some cause us- some of us will always care. It’s just who we are and what makes us unique. Why would you ever want to change that about you? Your heart, it's rare. It's beautiful. Not everyone is capable of having those kind of feelings...so own them. Be proud of them. Those people, the ones who wear their hearts on their sleeves are the ones I cherish. Because even though they don’t have to, they CARE to wish you well. The truth is, sometimes you have to meet those kind of people so that when you meet the ones with a heart of gold you can differentiate the two. I guess that’s what life is all about- taking chances and having faith in something greater. If there’s anything I have learned in my life that I feel has value for every person is to know what you bring to the table. Know what you can offer someone. Know these things so you never lose yourself to someone who treats you like you’re ordinary. You’re exquisite. Feel it. Believe it. Know it. And no matter what, never, ever lose yourself to someone who doesn't see it. Life is way too short to leave the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket...so leave it to fries to make you happy. #sundays
|Posted on August 4, 2017 at 6:20 PM||comments (0)|
"Never let a confused man waste your time,
love or energy."
Not everyone will value your time, energy, space, and most of all...love. Make sure whoever comes to you doesn't take the best parts of you when
they leave. You're worthy of something real, something true. It's ok to have standards to who's worthy of you.
|Posted on July 30, 2017 at 4:10 PM||comments (0)|
"DON'T BE INTIMIDATED BY A
WHO REALLY DOESN'T NEED YOU.
AS A MATTER A FACT, SHOOT FOR HER...
SHE MAY KNOW HER AND YOUR WORTH."
There's something to say about women who aren't afraid to know their worth. These women aren't concerned with how their confidence is perceived in the eyes of others. Why should they? What's wrong with loving yourself? I think that's one of the important battles we have to overcome in this life. I truly do believe that. No one teaches us that simple knowledge that could take us so far... "Love yourself."
I grew up in a house where my father wasn't very loving to me and that really affected how I was in relationships, how I viewed myself, and how I would react when feeling abandoned. I didn't know that subconsciously I was allowing all those things affect me Day in and day out until I spoke to a therapist who helped me learn that it's never too late to learn how to love yourself. I'll tell you, learning to do that at 23 wasn't easy.
I didn't even know who I was, which made it even more difficult to do. It took a lot of tears, writing, nature, forgiveness, music and healing to find myself. It took being on my own to find myself and I now not only love myself because of it, I know what I have to offer. Don't forget to fall in love with yourself, first. Everything falls into place after that... ✖️⚫️✖️⚫️
|Posted on July 27, 2017 at 1:45 PM||comments (0)|
"Perhaps when you thought you weren't good enough...
the truth was that you were overqualified."
I've been there. We've all been there. In the position of someone telling us we deserve better, are going to find someone who deserves us, etc. I remember at the time feeling so damn confused too these words. It wasn't until years later that I realized deserving better isn't always because of your appearance or career or even the value in your bank. Deserving better is sometimes because your heart is magnificent. Because not everyone can understand, respect, or love like you do. Your heart is what makes your character beautiful and it's not for everyone...fortunately for you. Yes, fortunately. You deserve the very best with a heart like that and God bless the person who realized it enough to let you go so the universe can open doors, build paths and space for you to meet. I hope you never give in to the fear of not finding that person that you accept just any kind of love.
|Posted on July 11, 2017 at 10:45 PM||comments (0)|
I, like many, am guilty of forgetting to be proud of myself. In a day and age where it is so easy to compare our lives to others, especially on social media, it’s easy to sometimes feel like we still have so much to do. People around us are getting engaged, married, have kids, homes, are President of their companies, etc. We can always be better in our careers, relationships and work harder at our goals…that’s a given. However, I’m remembering the beauty of trusting the wait, even when it doesn’t make sense.. Success is perceived differently for each person. When I was a teen, I remember how notorious the word “conceited” was. All the girls used that word to define women who were confident. As an adult, with far more experience and knowledge, I’ve found “that girl” to be inspiring. There is a fine line with being arrogant and cocky vs. humble and proud. You’re beautiful- own your smile. You have a beautiful shape- wear clothes that make you feel good in them. I am here to tell you that it is ok to decide that you’re not going to settle for bullshit goals, bullshit people or a bullshit story. Every day of your life is unwritten and you get to choose how you’ll fill the pages. I’m also here to tell you that you’re not only going to get over whatever is holding you down, but at times, all you accomplish will scare the life out of you. Don’t let it. You deserve everything good that is coming your way. Remember, darling, the best revenge is to move on and utilize that strength that you have been given. Use it. Be your own definition of success.
|Posted on June 27, 2017 at 1:05 PM||comments (1)|
"The comeback is always stronger
than the setback."
I genuinely believe that before things become great, they fall apart. We feel defeated, lost, confused and unable to move forward. It is in these moments that our strength is tested most. It is in these moments that we are reminded how strong we are. Above all, it is in these moments we gain our wings. So, let go of all you think you have to be and remember who YOU ARE. You're badass & this is only the beginning. #getitgirl
|Posted on June 27, 2017 at 1:05 PM||comments (0)|
"I do not want to be liked. I want to be myself."
A few years ago, I remember watching Katy Perry's movie in theaters and falling in love with her heart, goofy personality and free spirit. She reminded me a lot of the me that only those who really know me see. The silly, dorky, clumsy, hopeless romantic person I am. I cried when she got dumped while on tour, laughed when she went to the cat museum and felt hopeful when I heard her explain to her fans that she'd just been heartbroken and continued to sing. Recently, she filmed a live 96 hour stream, sharing raw footage of her behind the scenes. I haven't seen it yet, but I did see a short video of her crying about wanting to forget the "Katy Perry" image people have come to love. It's so empowering to see someone realize that they no longer love a person they once were and are ok and accepting of being someone new. Pain changes us and it also evolves us into a new person. Sometimes in the journey of losing who we were and finding who we are, we feel lost and alone. If you ever have doubts, need a friend or want to share your worries, email me. You should never feel alone and know that in the end, you're going to be ok. You've just got to keep your head up and remember, you were perfect then, you're perfect now and you'll still be perfect later. You're allowed to change.