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"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life...it goes on."- Robert Frost

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Be kind to yourself.

Posted on February 6, 2018 at 12:30 PM Comments comments (0)

When is a “loss” really a loss? In my opinion, it’s only when you allow it to be. Our minds are a very, very powerful force of nature and with self-discipline, we can become the master of our thoughts. The only difference between a good and bad thought is the difference in your control of it. If you don’t control what you THINK, you cannot control what you DO. A bad habit we all have, including myself, is over-thinking. Silence is golden may be true, but it surely does offer time to hear ourselves a bit louder. Is the voice in your head friendly? Who’s side is it on? Does it build you or tear you down? What does it say to you? Like all good things in life...practice makes perfect. Spend time, everyday, nurturing, training, and praying for confidence, security, and strength to be kind to yourself. That’s where love begins and ends. Without loving yourself, you’ll always listen to the doubt, insecurity, and anxiousness behind a voice who wants to kick down the badass you really are. So, sit...sit in the silence. But don’t become a victim to what that bitch says

People Change.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 3:25 PM Comments comments (0)

PEOPLE LOOK SO DIFFERENT ONCE YOU DON'T CARE ABOUT THEM ANYMORE.

Throughout life, you’ll meet people who will make you feel different than others. Some will be amazing and others, not so much. The people we tend to remember the most are the ones who’ve made us feel both... crazy good & crazy bad. These people are sometimes unforgettable and quite frankly, I think that’s okay. It’s ok to remember how quickly feelings can change and how quickly people’s feelings for us can change too. It’s important so that you remember that the only thing consistent in life is your love for yourself and if that is not nourished and cared for, you’ll be left alone if someone’s feelings for you slip like quicksand. My suggestion? Don’t forget these people who’ve made you feel amazing then shitty. Remember them. For YOU. Remember what they’ve done without letting it weigh you down. Remember, that you will truly forget what they’ve said and maybe what they’ve done, but you’ll never forget how they made you feel. Maybe it’ll also shape how you treat others. In the end, that’s all we’re remembered for, anyway....how we made others feel.

Love yourself MORE.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

I’ve seen so many amazing, deserving, loving, and valuable men AND women settle for less than they deserve. I think we all do it-stick around, hoping people will change. I get it; trust me. I get it because I was there before- that push/pull relationship. God, it is so toxic. It consumes you. It drains you. It causes you to forget YOU! Once you learn to love yourself and value your own time, solitude, beauty, and accept it for what it is, you’ll realize how consuming, annoying, and far from cute loving the wrong kind of people is. Remember, it drains you. After learning who I am and what I want, nothing is sexier than hearing from your spouse, “Do you.” When they say it in a positive, supportive, non-passive way...you know they not only want you to live your best life and to reach your worth, but they’ll be there to support you rather than weigh you down. Pick and choose wisely. Not everyone is worth your energy.

Good for you.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:10 AM Comments comments (0)

IT TAKES TIME TO LEARN HOW TO BE ATTRACTED TO WHAT'S GOOD FOR US.


One of the most awakening lessons you’ll learn in life is what love really looks and feels like. For a long time, I thought love was about how someone makes you feel. I’ve learned through growth and age that love is many things, but for me...the most eye-opening lesson has been realizing that love is about giving without expectation of receiving. True love, never counts sacrifices, gifts given, and time spent with others. The true love that has lasted is the one that’s more focused on giving than receiving. It’s a love that’s genuine, from the heart, and creates a space that doesn’t influence jealousy, hate, or disappointment.

Do whatever you want... just don't hurt people.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:05 AM Comments comments (0)

I’ve always said people are going to do whatever they want, regardless of their circumstances. You can be the most amazing person in the world, whether as a spouse, employee, or even a family member. Labels unfortunately don’t always mean the same thing to others and also don’t stop people from disrespecting you. Because of this, I’ve learned that going into anything new will be scary and you can’t avoid pain as it’s inevitable. You can only wish and hope that people have the same heart as you. In life, you’ve got to take chances and that sometimes means putting your heart on the line. For what it’s worth, everything in life whether gone good or bad, is a lesson.

I know I deserve Better.

Posted on February 5, 2018 at 11:05 AM Comments comments (0)

One of the most heartbreaking things I see on a daily basis is women who’ve forgotten what they bring to the table. In short, their worth. Why does this happen? Well, if I had to guess it’s because when a breakup occurs, a natural thought that we immediately believe is that it was our fault. We hurt and to make sense of it, we tend to blame ourselves because it’s easier than thinking rationally as to why it didn’t work. I spent a looooong time reading, studying, and practicing a lot of the relationship “techniques” books teach you on having a successful relationship. Very few teach you the simple key that I had to learn on my own time. It sounds simple and I know many of you can argue that you do in fact “love yourself,” but I beg to differ. Loving yourself is an art that is so fucking important to every aspect of having a rich life. No person, object, career, sport, place, or high can replace the importance of loving yourself without condition. By that, I mean that even when you are not your best, when your ugly side shows...YOU still love yourself and accept your flaws. This, my dear, is what love is all about. Loving someone unconditionally, without expectation or default when tension arrives. I ask you to focus today on loving yourself. If you’re lost, or don’t know where to begin, I’m only an email away.

Chase the light.

Posted on January 18, 2018 at 6:10 PM Comments comments (0)

As many may know, I've been writing on my personal blog, www.shimarazipour.com, since I was 16. I often receive messages and emails from people I've never met seeking guidance. 8/10 times, it is often someone who has lost hope, faith, or feels like a failure for not being where they feel they "should be."

 

My blog has always humbled me because it reminds me that we're all fighting battles no one may know of.


 

If you feel lost today, keep this quote in mind: "Don't compare your life to others. There's no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it's their time."

 

YOU ARE WORTHY OF ALL YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. Keep chasing the light & never give up. xoxo.

Cheaters Cheat.

Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Cheating is a choice not a mistake."

Stop sugarcoating a fuck up as a weakness. Stop justifying why someone did what they did. Accept that the person did something low, inconsiderate, and hurtful. Yes, they may have been weak, to fall for temptation...but you don’t have to be weak back. Know you’re worth having the kind of relationship that doesn’t hurt. You’re worth not having to stress where or who someone may be with. You are worth feeling secure in your relationships.

CrownED.

Posted on January 15, 2018 at 11:50 AM Comments comments (0)

"Fix her crown without letting the

world know it was crooked."


Gentlemen, I get a few emails from you questioning why the ladies you’re pursuing are standoffish, show no interest, etc. 9/10 Times, I’ve asked them when their previous relationship ended. Often, you don’t know. When pursuing a woman, it is important to know things that have shaped her. Not to “punish” her, rather to have a greater insight to know if she’s ready for commitment or what she’s looking for. Also, it allows you to know what parts of her need healing. Maybe it’s not her heart. Maybe it’s her thought process. For a short period, before I decided enough is enough, I had a negative outlook on men. All men. I didn’t care how good they treated me or that they’d send me flowers at work, I ignored all of them. Why? Because my head wasn’t in the game. The prince of Egypt could have tried to court me and I would have ignored him. A woman who’s been hurt is not a bitch. She’s guarded. Rather than trying to win her over with things she’s seen before, gifts and flowers, sit her down. Don’t butter up with words that have lost value. Just simply, get to know her. Find common interest, hobbies, and remind her of the good. With time, if she’s meant for you, she’ll always remember you as the guy who cared more about her heart than her ass. Women talk. We tell our friends about these things and good friends, won’t let good guys pass our friends. We tell them who’s worth giving a shot and who isn’t. So, be kind to her heart. It’s been broken. Be yourself and allow quality time, memories, and good conversation to give her that confidence she needs to try again.

Better work for it.

Posted on January 11, 2018 at 4:55 PM Comments comments (0)
"A man that does not work to get you will not work to keep you."

The RIGHT guy for YOU won’t give up easily...I promise you. If they see your value, worth, and know what you bring to the table from the very beginning, they’ll continue working to be the keeper of your heart vs. giving up easily. A man who knows what he wants will always have his eye on you, even if you’re stubborn and push him away...he will respect your needs, but will always have his eye on you, ready to pursue you again when you’re ready. Find that man. The one who never gave up on you because he knew you were worth the wait, energy, time, and most of all, the commitment.