Life. Moves. On.

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about goes on."- Robert Frost


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The long way

Posted on June 27, 2017 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (0)

"The comeback is always stronger

than the setback."

I genuinely believe that before things become great, they fall apart. We feel defeated, lost, confused and unable to move forward. It is in these moments that our strength is tested most. It is in these moments that we are reminded how strong we are. Above all, it is in these moments we gain our wings. So, let go of all you think you have to be and remember who YOU ARE. You're badass & this is only the beginning. #getitgirl

I want to be myself.

Posted on June 27, 2017 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (0)

"I do not want to be liked. I want to be myself."

A few years ago, I remember watching Katy Perry's movie in theaters and falling in love with her heart, goofy personality and free spirit. She reminded me a lot of the me that only those who really know me see. The silly, dorky, clumsy, hopeless romantic person I am. I cried when she got dumped while on tour, laughed when she went to the cat museum and felt hopeful when I heard her explain to her fans that she'd just been heartbroken and continued to sing. Recently, she filmed a live 96 hour stream, sharing raw footage of her behind the scenes. I haven't seen it yet, but I did see a short video of her crying about wanting to forget the "Katy Perry" image people have come to love. It's so empowering to see someone realize that they no longer love a person they once were and are ok and accepting of being someone new. Pain changes us and it also evolves us into a new person. Sometimes in the journey of losing who we were and finding who we are, we feel lost and alone. If you ever have doubts, need a friend or want to share your worries, email me. You should never feel alone and know that in the end, you're going to be ok. You've just got to keep your head up and remember, you were perfect then, you're perfect now and you'll still be perfect later. You're allowed to change.


Posted on June 21, 2017 at 2:45 AM Comments comments (0)

"Self-care is how you take your power back."

I believe hat self-love comes in many forms. Learning to love yourself has to be one of the most challenging, dynamic and eye opening experiences in my opinion. We're not taught how to love ourselves and often grow our perceptions of ourselves by the opinions of others. Today, I have a greater appreciation of loving myself. I've learned the importance of knowing myself and not allowing the opinion of others to take away from how I see myself. Be sure to fall in love with yourself first, love. 

Better people.

Posted on June 11, 2017 at 12:05 PM Comments comments (0)

If there is one thing we can always be, it is better. 

Throw caution to the wind.

Posted on June 11, 2017 at 12:05 PM Comments comments (0)

If granted the opportunity, would you want to know what the future holds for you? Who you will be, what you will become? Who will stay, who will leave, and who will come? Would you want to know? I think one of the greatest reasons why we repeat mistakes is because we're afraid to try new things, wander away from what we know. But what if everything you've ever wanted was just on the other side of fear?

A comfort zone is a beautiful place, my dear, but nothing ever grows from there. Throw caution to the wind & explore new paths. 

Sea Deep

Posted on June 6, 2017 at 3:45 PM Comments comments (0)

I received an email last week from a follower who was having trouble dating. Her problem wasn't that she couldn't find anyone, but that for the life of her, she couldn't let people in. After exchanging a few emails, I realized what could possibly be the "problem." She had her guard up. She'd been hurt before and after knowing what it felt like to be broken before, she was always careful to avoid coming close to it again. Instead of taking chances and risking drowning in love, she chose to stay near the shore..where the tides are low and she can feel the sand beneath her feet. I think that it's easy to stay close to what we know and that's why we tend to repeat our mistakes, no matter how we much try to avoid them. It's easier to play with what we know, than to explore something new. She felt worried that she may have lost out on good people because of her fear of getting hurt. I could tell she may have been close to loving again before, buts something always led her to slip it like grains of sand through her hands. I think it's okay to be a careful person, but not at the expense of growing. Heartache, experience, and lessons are merely stepping stones that shape us to who we are to become. A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing grows from there. You grow most in the times that you feel the least amount of comfort. Swim away from the shore, my dear. #comfort #therapy #water

Strongest Trait

Posted on June 4, 2017 at 11:55 PM Comments comments (0)

I got an email from a follower this morning who asked me:

W͟͟H͟͟A͟͟T͟͟ D͟͟O͟͟ Y͟͟O͟͟U͟͟ T͟͟H͟͟I͟͟N͟͟K͟͟ I͟͟S͟͟ T͟͟H͟͟E͟͟ S͟͟T͟͟R͟͟O͟͟N͟͟G͟͟E͟͟S͟͟T͟͟ T͟͟R͟͟A͟͟I͟͟T͟͟ A͟͟ W͟͟O͟͟M͟͟A͟͟N͟͟ I͟͟N͟͟ A͟͟ R͟͟E͟͟L͟͟A͟͟T͟͟I͟͟O͟͟N͟͟S͟͟H͟͟I͟͟P͟͟ S͟͟H͟͟O͟͟U͟͟L͟͟D͟͟ C͟͟A͟͟R͟͟R͟͟Y͟͟?

I’ve personally found that it is common for women to get caught up in the lives of those they date so much that they forget about themselves. Since women tend to sacrifice for the ones they love, especially their children and spouses, they forget to nurture themselves. They put the goals of others before theirs and slowly, but surely, they feel sluggish, unhappy, and insecure. As women, it is important that we change this habit. It is important that we learn the value of self-love. We must make time to do things that are good for us such as working out, eating well, traveling, exploring our hobbies, and constantly finding ways to improve. It is not enough to say we want to be better for those around us, we must want to be well on our own. Remember, it is only when you love yourself that you can allow space in your heart for others to love you too. So, be selfish with your time. Be selfish with the energy you allow in your life. Most of all, don’t let anyone diminish your self-worth. You are worth everything you’ve worked so damn hard for. To me, the strongest trait a woman can carry is her self-love. 


Posted on June 4, 2017 at 11:55 PM Comments comments (0)

A few years ago when I began to go to therapy to discover who I am, I realized how similar relationships are to trees. A strong tree that withstands all weather conditions and remains for years to come, probably had a strong foundation. I always wonder about the other trees, the ones that didn't. The ones that didn't start with nurturing and love, yet still grew to be beautiful sights to see. My favorite, though, is the tree that has risen above everything around that's tried to keep it down. It's surpassed the weather conditions and even times of drought. That tree, though it's start may have been amazing and eventually diminished or it was rocky all along, came out stronger, better because of it. It makes you realize that no matter what happens around us, doesn't have to be what happens to us. It's all about perspective and how we look at the things that occur in our lives. I choose to believe that everything that happens is good, whether I like it or not. I know at the end of the day, it's all part of the journey. No bad days. #gratefulheart

Enjoy the path.

Posted on June 4, 2017 at 11:55 PM Comments comments (0)

When a woman is single, most people assume she is loanely. Most people assume that she needs to find a boyfriend. I think that's where the problem begins. There's a beautiful journey that can only take place when one is single. In that journey, one will usually find their strengths, hobbies and even what they don't like. They'll find themselves, if they learn to enjoy the space that's with them. Some don't. Some never do, because that space feels more like an empty void that needs to be filled. I've found that its easy to fill that void, but not always with good. It can be easily filled to make you not feel alone with toxic behavior such as drinking, smoking, sex or even food. The problem is that the substance lacks depth and once it leaves you, you feel empty again. This is why I've found it's important to be content alone, before a relationship. Nothing is guaranteed in life and we may lose people. To know what you're worthy of, alone, lasts you a lifetime. Enjoy the ride and trust the journey. Also, don't m assume that just because a woman is sitting alone, she is waiting for you. My advice for the women who are seeking a partner, go out and enjoy the solitude. If you allow time and space to let him find you, you'll meet on the right path, at the right time. For now, enjoy your independence.

Mountain High

Posted on June 1, 2017 at 2:15 AM Comments comments (0)

This past weekend my best friend and I spontaneously explored several trails in L.A. Knowing me, I try to learn something new about myself, others or my surrounding when doing something. It's just how I've always been. Today, I realized how powerful our minds can be. We can literally trick ourselves into doing things or to not do things...simply by listening to our minds. Whether it is a diet, telling ourselves we're worthy of more than how someone is treating us, or conquering a mountain (literally), we can do whatever we set our minds to. Know you're worthy of receiving whatever you desire then set your mind to achieve it. Believe in yourself and you're half way there. Then there is truly no room for failure. You're worth it.