Life. Moves. On.

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about goes on."- Robert Frost


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Who rescued who?

Posted on July 19, 2017 at 3:10 PM Comments comments (0)

What many people may find hard to believe is that I almost gave Bubba up after adopting him. Had I done so, I wouldn’t be as strong of a person I am today.

He's taught me more about life than any professor, book, or class ever could. From teaching me to trust the journey to scare a guy away when I was followed home one evening, it's safe to say he rescued me and I can only hope others are lucky enough to know the love of a rescue dog.

With a happy heart, I'm thrilled to announce the publication of my third book: Life lessons from my dog, Bubba. ��

I will be donating a portion of each book sale to dog rescues in the South Bay in hopes of helping more dogs like Bubba find a home. You may purchase a copy directly from my website➡️

Thank you in advance for the support. #adoptdontshop #whorescuedwho

Soul 2 Soul

Posted on July 17, 2017 at 12:50 PM Comments comments (0)

I used to fear change so much that I tried to resist it from happening. Through that, I learned the anxiety trying to control things causes a person. In reality, we are never in control. We like to think we can control how things will play out, and that's where most of our unhappiness, stress and anxiety stems from. I believe the sooner you come to realize that you're never in control, you allow the universe to open doors, create paths and bring you solutions to things that seem or feel unattainable.

For me, the greatest challenge was accepting that I can grow and become a greater person, while remaining true to my beliefs and who I really am. We know that pain changes us. Sometimes we try to mask the pain by doing things we can control, like dyeing our hair, changing our music, or moving away. These are things we can control, but there are always going to be outside factors that no matter how much we try, are there. When people tell me I've changed, the answer is no longer of concern or fear of what they think or why they say that. The answer is pretty simple, actually. "I didn't work this hard to stay the same." You're allowed to grow, my dear. You're allowed to grow in all the places people thought you never would. So, smile and embrace all you've become because you've worked too damn hard to stay the same. #journey #soul2soul


Posted on July 11, 2017 at 10:45 PM Comments comments (0)

I received an email this morning from a follower struggling with "fitting in to society." She told me that she felt like she didn't belong and that she was the odd one in her group of friends. By odd, she meant that she didn't like the same things they did. I asked her why she felt that she had to perceive her uniqueness as a bad thing. Growing up and even sometimes now, I am almost always the only one of my friends sober. Drinking never was for me. Every now and then, I'm asked to drink or asked why I don't. It doesn't bother me to explain why, because I'm ok with my answer. I think accepting who we are is one of the bravest things we do in a world that teaches us to be like everyone else. We're taught to be ourselves from a young age, yet sadly, those same people are often bullied. If you feel at a crossroads to trying to fit in or be yourself, I beg you to choose your happiness first. There is no greater freedom, happiness and peace that comes with finally being at a place in your life where you're ok with who you are. We all have a past, a present and a future. You are not tied to your past and your present moment doesn't have to be you in the future. My advice? Pay attention to your senses and follow your gut. Listen to the fire that burns inside of you when you're in the midst of doing something you love. Listen to that innocence within you that wasn't afraid of being judged. Be you, do you and stay true to YOU...oh, and let your toes touch the sky. ❤️ #beyourself #loveyourself #journey #therapy #writing


Be your own definition of success.

Posted on July 11, 2017 at 10:45 PM Comments comments (0)

I, like many, am guilty of forgetting to be proud of myself. In a day and age where it is so easy to compare our lives to others, especially on social media, it’s easy to sometimes feel like we still have so much to do. People around us are getting engaged, married, have kids, homes, are President of their companies, etc. We can always be better in our careers, relationships and work harder at our goals…that’s a given. However, I’m remembering the beauty of trusting the wait, even when it doesn’t make sense.. Success is perceived differently for each person. When I was a teen, I remember how notorious the word “conceited” was. All the girls used that word to define women who were confident. As an adult, with far more experience and knowledge, I’ve found “that girl” to be inspiring. There is a fine line with being arrogant and cocky vs. humble and proud. You’re beautiful- own your smile. You have a beautiful shape- wear clothes that make you feel good in them. I am here to tell you that it is ok to decide that you’re not going to settle for bullshit goals, bullshit people or a bullshit story. Every day of your life is unwritten and you get to choose how you’ll fill the pages. I’m also here to tell you that you’re not only going to get over whatever is holding you down, but at times, all you accomplish will scare the life out of you. Don’t let it. You deserve everything good that is coming your way. Remember, darling, the best revenge is to move on and utilize that strength that you have been given. Use it. Be your own definition of success.



Posted on July 5, 2017 at 1:15 PM Comments comments (0)
Doubt is such a strong feeling that if we allow it to, it will be take over our souls and drown all our goals. The funny thing is, doubt cannot come in unless we allow it. You see, we don't have to allow anything into our lives unless we want it. Some things, like pain, may be inevitable. But I can't help but think that some times, some people, choose to be in pain. They become victims in their lives, allowing excuses to be their reasoning. You cannot blame someone for their "inability" to treat you better, if you accept what they give. You cannot blame your circumstances, unless you choose to do better. You cannot fail, unless you choose not to try. Remember that time you almost gave up and thought you wouldn't survive? Well, you're still here and you can do it again. Stop waiting to be rescued and be your own damn hero, cause the truth of the matter is that a hero is not measured by his strength, but by the size of his heart. What's your super power? Mine is love. 

Chasing the light.

Posted on July 5, 2017 at 1:15 PM Comments comments (0)

Rise Higher.

Posted on July 5, 2017 at 1:10 PM Comments comments (0)

I know everyone says that good things happen when you least expect it, like falling in love. If there's one thing I've learned to do that's made all the difference is finding the good in everything. No matter what has happened in your life, you have the opportunity to change how you'll let it affect you. This takes a lot of practice, sometimes everyday. For me, the greatest challenge was learning to accept an apology I never got. That took a LOT of practice but when I found I wasn't doing ok with just that, I tried something new. I created distance from things, places and people who weren't helping me grow. I know a lot of people weren't happy with me for it, but it wasn't about them. It was and always will be about what's going to make me happy, better and stronger for the future. Sometimes you need to take yourself out of a situation to see things more clearly and let me tell you, the climb of being the bigger person is always rewarding.

No matter what life hands to you, take the classier approach and nothing is more elegant than loving yourself so much that YOUR peace of mind comes first. 

The long way

Posted on June 27, 2017 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (1)

"The comeback is always stronger

than the setback."

I genuinely believe that before things become great, they fall apart. We feel defeated, lost, confused and unable to move forward. It is in these moments that our strength is tested most. It is in these moments that we are reminded how strong we are. Above all, it is in these moments we gain our wings. So, let go of all you think you have to be and remember who YOU ARE. You're badass & this is only the beginning. #getitgirl

I want to be myself.

Posted on June 27, 2017 at 1:05 PM Comments comments (0)

"I do not want to be liked. I want to be myself."

A few years ago, I remember watching Katy Perry's movie in theaters and falling in love with her heart, goofy personality and free spirit. She reminded me a lot of the me that only those who really know me see. The silly, dorky, clumsy, hopeless romantic person I am. I cried when she got dumped while on tour, laughed when she went to the cat museum and felt hopeful when I heard her explain to her fans that she'd just been heartbroken and continued to sing. Recently, she filmed a live 96 hour stream, sharing raw footage of her behind the scenes. I haven't seen it yet, but I did see a short video of her crying about wanting to forget the "Katy Perry" image people have come to love. It's so empowering to see someone realize that they no longer love a person they once were and are ok and accepting of being someone new. Pain changes us and it also evolves us into a new person. Sometimes in the journey of losing who we were and finding who we are, we feel lost and alone. If you ever have doubts, need a friend or want to share your worries, email me. You should never feel alone and know that in the end, you're going to be ok. You've just got to keep your head up and remember, you were perfect then, you're perfect now and you'll still be perfect later. You're allowed to change.


Posted on June 21, 2017 at 2:45 AM Comments comments (0)

"Self-care is how you take your power back."

I believe hat self-love comes in many forms. Learning to love yourself has to be one of the most challenging, dynamic and eye opening experiences in my opinion. We're not taught how to love ourselves and often grow our perceptions of ourselves by the opinions of others. Today, I have a greater appreciation of loving myself. I've learned the importance of knowing myself and not allowing the opinion of others to take away from how I see myself. Be sure to fall in love with yourself first, love.